Has anyone moved in back with their parents or moved in with their in-laws?

Hello Mamas! We are family of 4, soon to be 5 this upcoming November. Long story short, we live in California, and rent has gotten ridiculous! I'm a SAHM, homeschooler family, and it had been working pretty well for us for the past 5 years with my husband as the sole income provider. Rent is going up, AGAIN, and we have been having on and off plumbing issues at our place, to the point that we fell off with our landlady and since we're so short on time, we are faced with the decision to move in with my in-laws. They have an extra room and space for us to live with them temporarily. Especially since baby is coming soon! Although I am VERY grateful and fortunate to be able to have family there as support, the last couple of weeks have been really emotionally and mentally stressful. Ever since my husband and I married, we have had our own place and our space. Especially since we both like to be very private about our home life, etc. I also have a good relationship with my in-laws, but even them, it's hard to assimilate this upcoming change. Especially since I will be spending postpartum not in my "ideal" home space. Have any of you experienced similar situations? How did it go for you? What helped and what advice could you provide? I need to keep myself and mind somewhat at peace, and pregnancy hormones aren't helping 🥲😅 Thank you for taking the time to read.

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Yes I have and it ruined my relationship with my in-laws for multiple reasons. I would advise avoid it if at all possible. If you really need to, have an exit date in place and save save save. It’s better if you’re actually working toward something. I was also post partum and resented the fact that I wasn’t in my own space, also hormones are off so you may be more sensitive to certain things (comments, etc…) than normal. If you get along well, it may be tolerable

@Kyra Aw man. I'm sorry to hear that. And yes, our plan is to save to move as soon as we can. Hopefully, no more than 6 months. Ideally, I just wanna be there 3-4 😅

Would the in laws be able to help with the kids? If so maybe it could free up some time for you to work from home or something, which could help to afford a new place in the future.

@Nilo Unfortunately, my in-laws are still working. They are not at retirement age yet. Both are gone for most of the day. But yes, ideally, I would like to work to help save faster. I wouldn't be able to work the first month since the baby is due November 15. Everything changed drastically at the last minute for us. I'm riding wave 😬

We have to move in with my MIL but not looking forward to it at all! It’s a small 2 bed (static caravan) and we have a 16 month old boy, my problem is she’s always been the type of person to “tell” you what she thinks! Most of the time she tells me my clothes don’t go together! That my boy should be sat up in his pram/stroller (even though he’s only just woken up or he’s just drifting off to sleep! I was “made” to move him from the Moses basket pram/stroller to the seated position one at about 3/4 months because she said he wants to be sat up and looking around when I kept telling her everyone advises babies should be flat till 6 months! There’s sooo much more and my hubby is afraid to stand up to her so I like living with her is going to be a nightmare! Just be glad you have a good relationship Good luck xx

@Lee Oh man! That is rough! My MIL usually keeps her opinions to herself. Ever since the beginning of our relationship, she's been like that. I think because she had to go through it with her own in-laws. My FIL, on the other hand, can sometimes be a little too opinionated, especially about the way we raise our children. But luckily, hubby has the temperament to deal with him if he has to! My MIL has no daughters, so I think that's probably why she tries to keep negative opinions to herself, so as to not push me away. I hope our relationship doesn't change once living under the same roof! Thank you, and good luck to you as well! I hope your situation goes by fast!

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