Baby daddy jealous of the kids not calling his name.

What I mean by that .. never changed a diaper, fixed their dinner , gave them baths, read to them, held them , comfort when sick . Etc .., but I have.

I mean naturally they're gonna want mom more for comfort and care and dad for fun it's just human nature, but if dad isn't actively putting himself in the care roles then they will quite literally never look to him for those things and that's on him. Tell him to be mad at his own self

I bet if he started giving them lots of attention and spent hours playing with them they would start hollering for him.

I mean, yeah what does he expect? He's not raising his kids and wondering why they're giving him 'extended family' treatment Maybe it's an opportunity to have a real conversation about his role as a dad while they're young enough for him to correct this. He should start by taking over bath time to bond and nurture his boys. Otherwise, what is he jealous about while he's not trying to do anything for them? Why would they call him if he's taught them that they can only depend on one parent?

The conversation has been spoken about it before but he says he works. He shouldn’t have to work and do those things because he is tired. And he the. Goes to explain how he raised this way and never saw his father help and his mother never complained or became depressed.

Oh, he's one of those guys who thinks his little job is enough to afford a live-in nanny, personal chef, and the expects you to have sex with him for free too 😪 Having a job is a normal adult responsibility and if he felt he couldn't do it with kids, he shouldn't have made kids? You are working a 2 person job 24/7, are you not tired? When do you get to 'clock out'? How would he feel if every day he went to work, all his coworkers stopped doing their job so he could do literally everything? He sounds like he's paying child support, not in a relationship or partnership. If he mentions his mom, I would mention how the times have changed and while she couldn't leave back then, I CAN. My partner works, pays every bill, yet still handles bath/bed time, cooks dinners since I do breakfast/lunch, takes the kids to the park or grocery shopping to give me a break, they take walks, he wears our daughter in a baby carrier, learned how to use/wash cloth diapers, reads articles on child development, etc

Well, I would clock out when he gets home or weekends. Just literally leave thr house for a few hours so he can learn that this job is 24/7 it doesn't matter if he's tired just like it doesn't matter when you are tired 🤷🏾‍♀️ This man needs to wake up and realize he's found one of the last few women willing to be treated this way so he should be more grateful and respectful to you. You're doing a LOT.

Aaannnnddd your kids will resent him for that. Dude really needs to educate himself on human development... the role of dad is sooooooooo important for a child's development. He's hurting his kids by ONLY being a financial provider. Kids don't care about money and bills they care about presence and love. Wanted to edit to add... you really really need to decide if this is worth it.. you said it yourself. He's behaving this way because he watched his dad do it and his mom accept it. Right now you're repeating the cycle with your boys. Showing them that "dad just provides and walks all over mom and mom just takes it so that's what love must look like. And this is how I should treat my future partner."

Hope you're doing okay babe 🫶🏻