In law drama

Do what’s right for you and your baby, and don’t feel guilty or cave in to them; they’re being selfish. Babies are fragile and need you to advocate for their wellbeing. And you’re recovering and need to take care of yourself. My husband and I had our families visit right away because I caved to spare everyone’s feelings (I delivered vaginally-no c-section) and I didn’t sleep for about a week. I was exhausted. Then I was told my siblings were exposed to Covid and I had anxiety for a week while we waited for signs of symptoms. He was fine luckily, but it could have been much worse

The level of delusion is astounding. Not only did you have a c section but you have further surgery and your baby was in NICU Please heal, I cannot believe they are putting pressure on you knowing what you’ve been through. Other women who have had children, disgraceful! They will all get over it x

The sister-in-law is too comfy for my liking. 😭 but shout out to ur fiance for telling them no cause many men out there wouldn’t. It’s ur baby. If you’re not ready u just aren’t who cares whether they like it or not. Ur baby , ur decision. Has baby even gotten her first shots yet ?

I had this exact same thing, I was living at my mums at the time and they screamed at me down the phone saying I should of sent personal invites to everyone. Long story short we cut my MIL out for 4 months to let her realise our little family came first. We’ve only just got back in contact due to a family member passing but she’s totally different now

Did you tell them what’s going on? If they know the situation and are still acting like this then they are nuts. If they don’t know about the second surgery they’re probably truly hurt and you should tell them why. It’s child birth. Weird things happen to all of us so they should understand.

@Nichola how is she totally different and it’s only been 4 months? She just respects your boundaries now because of the wait?

Cutting my in laws off was the best thing my husband and I did for our family. We are much happier without them around! It was hard to do, but so worth it. It gets better, mama. Much love to you.

@Jody baby hasn’t gotten her first shots yet. Another reason why we hadn’t been quick to invite anyone over. The sister in law has never liked me. There has been some weird tension between since I started dating my fiance 7 years ago. We had moved past it, but as soon as I started to have issues with his sisters and mother, she started to text me about how I’ve never made an effort to connect with his family. Not true. I had a good relationship with his sisters and we were constantly hanging out.

@Cassie yes they’re well aware of everything we’ve been through. They say they’ve given us space yet cry about how we keep shutting them down.

@Jocelyn oh then they’re in the wrong point blank period.

You are definitely correct they are making it abt themselves and not wanting to understand how you are feeling or going through.. don't feel bad.

Thanks for everyone’s input! I’m an only child and my parents live across the country, so I’ve been feeling down. I have always loved his family, but i also felt I needed to place boundaries for the first months of my baby’s life. And I needed to adjust to this new normal. My fiance supported this. It is sad that it came to this. Luckily, my mom flew across the country to take care of me because I couldn’t walk well or lift anything for a few weeks.

They’re being so selfish!

My inlaws begged to be our babysitter, they want to do it for free so they can see they kids. I work 4-6 hours a day and typically get the kids by 2pm. We also plant and maintain their garden, their barn, spend loads of money to fix up their farm because we use part of it as well. This past spring the night we planted the garden a small storm blew through and ripped all of the plastic up and tore all of the plants out. They were home and never told us until the next day. We obviously were upset because it wasted so much money and our time and we were going to leave to cool off and come back later to fix it. My FIL decided he wanted to get mad at us for being mad and flipped out. Claimed we don't care about our kids because we work so much, we are trying to push him out of his home/farm, they are raising our kids and care more than we do, yada yada. It got so bad as we were trying to leave, FIL kept blocking us and we thought he was going to start throwing punches. We finally left and I took the kids

To work with me for a week before she even reached out to me. In that week I pulled all of my plants, animals, belongings from the property. We didn't speak for a few weeks, she made amends and I allowed her 1 day per week with the kids. We are now all on talking terms but Im holding the boundary on how much time they get.

@Cassie I think she knows she can’t manipulate her son anymore and won’t see her grandchildren if she carries on. It’s obviously an act but it helps

@Liv That would’ve been the last time they watched my kids. That’s wild that your FIL got upset that you guys were upset about your hard work on the garden. And to say they’re raising your kids when you don’t work super long hours is crazy to me. I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with that!

@Audrey I only allow her to watch them because he's not there when she does. They live 4 minutes away so a couple hours a week makes it easier for me than dealing with the complaints of not seeing them. Luckily my boss is a good friend of theirs and he flat out told them they are being psycho and be happy I'm even letting them be in the kids lives at this point which forced them to back off some. FIL is pretty alcohol dependent so we have always kept some distance from him just to stay away from that