I agree with the above statement fully, and it’s Important he understands you will need time when the baby is here to adjust x
I had a very similar approach to @Sum with this stuff. So also agree you are defo not in the wrong here. I live up North too and family on both sides are down South. I've had to navigate something super similar. Can I ask what country the family are coming from? (Our family is made up of 3 cultures and how I would handle this would depend on which of those cultures it was). Feel free to message directly 😁
No you're not. I understand his side are excited but for me sharing my baby experience with my mum was a special moment for us. It was like a different kind of bonding experience. It sounds weird but it's hard to explain. Does his family usually come over in January or is it solely to meet the baby . If it's just to meet the baby then that's something that needs to be run by you guys the mum and dad and not the grandma's. If they come over give them a time slot and make it a day where your partner is also there. You do what suits you and not what suits them
No you definitely aren't being an arsehole. Your partner should have your back and be the one to express and lay boundaries between his extended family and his immediate family (you and bubba). I have found it helpful to send videos to my partner to let him know how overwhelming it will be and what he can do to help after birth. One of which is managing visitors. Also, I sent him a video of the dangers of exposing your baby to too many people in the first 2-3 months before their immune system is developed where the damage is lifelong. It helped him understand how delicate those first months will be in terms of protecting mine and baby's wellbeing (and mental health)