AITA

So my partners family live away down south and we are up north. We had a shower at the weekend and his mum came. There were multiple things that happened that I felt were rude and have been told by friends since things she has said about us and our relationship that I've chosen not to tell him about. She went through unopened gifts before we had even had the chance to as an example of the little things that just didn't sit right with me. She mentioned that she's coming up for the birth (of course I want her to meet the baby) but if I'm being honest I only want my mum there as she is my comfort and I'm the one pushing the baby out but I don't want his mum to feel left out either. She then proceeds to tell me that her mum is coming to England from their home country in January and I can expect to have his mum, gran and grans sister (possibly even more family) round my house 4 weeks after birth for multiple days. He will have returned to work and I will be finding my feet, I have no idea how I will be feeling emotionally or physically and it's really overwhelmed me. Other than potentially popping home to my family for Christmas day and boxing day (just so I can feel a little festive if I'm capable of being there after birth) my family will not be coming to visit that first month. Am I the arsehole for wanting some time to figure things out and not having people on top of me? I go into host mode and these people are strangers to me, I will not settle if the house is a mess, I'll be tired, I just don't want the stress but he's now saying that he's upset that he has to tell his family they can't come visit his child. I'm not saying I don't want them to see the child, I just wanted what I want to be taken into consideration, it's me going through all the hard work, no body else.