as a 19yr old, she needs to grow up, she IS an adult now and she's becoming a lazy one. tell her she needs to start taking responsibility for her cat if she wants to keep it. you could also say "if you don't wanna grow up ill treat you like a child and ground you" that type of stuff always worked on me 😂😂😂
@Riley that's a good idea! I will have to pull that line out! ❤️ Thank you!
While she is technically an adult her mentality certainly won’t be, she’s coming out of teenage hood and into adulthood hood, the frontal lobe isn’t fully developed yet and it’s really hard sometimes. I understand she’s being rude a probably a little 💩 but try and be a little understanding. Xx
@Amy what out of this says I haven't been understanding?
Great that you’re being understanding. Didn’t mean to offend
yep treat her like a kid. i had a short stint of being a total shit to my parents around this age (except they were actually abusive but that’s another story) and when they cracked down on me and started treating me like the 12 year old i was acting like, i got my shit together and moved out 😭 so put your foot down she is old enough to figure it out. she’ll either treat you better or leave, but it sounds like y’all are actually great parents so she may just get it together so she can stay 😭
also it’s totally valid to feel heartbroken and frustrated about it. don’t beat yourself up for feeling overwhelmed, you’re doing your best and it’s not easy to extend grace to someone who (seems to be) purposely making it difficult. maybe have a heart to heart with her along with the discipline and tell her these feelings you’re telling us. shes also old enough to understand these conversations so i would tell her how disheartening it feels and how you’re losing motivation. it could be a wake up call and would likely feel a little less punitive
You should have been preparing her for adulthood and contributing 10 years ago. Without that expecting to start from nothing at 19 wasn't setting her up for success. She does need to work, and she does need to contribute.
Like I don't want her to get kicked out. She's my heart. She's my rock. She is my reason for even making it this far in life..... But wtf do I do here.....