AITA

Leave him and put him on child support. He’s selfish and obviously doesn’t care about your wellbeing

not crazy, and i promise you, no mother going thru what you are with him, would ever support him leaving and traveling whenever he wants to instead of staying at home with his family

@Frida that’s what I’m saying!!! It makes me feel crazy. I’m like what man travels THIS MUCH during the first two years of his sons life? It’s so weird and cringey.

@Courtney period

You’re a hater???? Honestly these men are useless!! He’s showing you exactly where he wants to be and it’s not helping you raise a family. You need to give him an ultimatum, then see what he does. His actions will show you. You’ll then need to be clear about what you do next because if you go back on an ultimatum he will never respect you. Sending love x

What in the actual f***? He does realize that he's a father and your baby is his kid too right? Obviously he knows absolutely nothing about women because, NO, absolutely not. Most women would NOT be supportive of that situation. I would be pissed. My husband and I don't really go on trips for pleasure without each other. Taking a guys/girls/solo trip isn't out of the question, but especially now that we have a kid, no one is just taking off on the other person without absolutely discussion and consent. He's acting like a single man. Your man is selfish and doesn't understand what it means to be a partner or a father. You don't get to just take off and go on vacation whenever you want.

@Kaylie he thinks he’s the exception to the rule 🙄 so over it

Is he at least a present and helpful father and partner when he's home? Was he like this before you had your baby, or did this behavior start after? Are you able to have other vulnerable conversations with him where he listens and is receptive to your feelings? It's one thing to be oblivious to how your actions might actually affect others around you, but what gets me is that he has the insane audacity to tell you that other women would be supportive of this behavior. No, they would not. Not women who have babies and kids. I feel like the women who would be supportive of this are either 1) getting the same equitable breaks, vacations, and opportunities. You've talked about it and come to a reciprocal solution so you both are able to get what you want and need, and one person isn't shouldering all the sacrifice. Or 2) women who are already struggling in their relationship and feel like they can breathe and do the things they want when their partner is gone. I have definitely known women who are the latter...

Yeah, I'm sorry but that's a massive no 🚩 My husband is gone a lot for work- and he hates it because he's away from me and our son. He's gone out with friends a few times, which I always encourage, but never for more than a day, and he's even cut it short because he felt like he was missing out on our son. Planning a trip together as a family would be one thing, but traveling repeatedly by himself for fun, without even giving you the opportunity to do the same?? He clearly doesn't care about you or your feelings or being a present father, and is just gonna do what HE wants to do regardless. My personal advice would be to lay it out exactly as it is, make it clear that he needs to change his behavior and be a parent just as much as you are. If he doesn't do that, then he never will as long as your together, and the longer you wait the worse it's gonna get. You deserve better, I promise.