How is everyone coping?

I’m sure that we’re all feeling the same to some degree but ngl I’m really struggling and I would love to know how everyone else is coping with everything but especially the lack of sleep? I had something very scary happen last night, I don’t know if it was an anxiety attack or what but I was completely out of it and didn’t feel like I was in my body, I didn’t recognise my own baby and boyfriend, I felt like I was going to faint, my vision was all funny, felt sick and couldn’t breathe. Called 111 and had to go into hospital to get checked but they told me it’s just from being tired.. I probably get about 4-5 hours of sleep a night (not in one go) and that’s about it, haven’t managed to get any rest at all since giving birth two weeks ago because we’ve also just moved house, it’s been extremely stressful moving with a newborn and I feel like my body’s shutting down.. I’m scared because I don’t like feeling this way, I guess I’m just wondering if anyone’s got any advice on how to get some more rest or if feeling like this is a normal thing as a first time mum? Is anyone else experiencing anything similar? I feel like this whole experience I had last night is starting to come on again, it’s just horrible and terrifying 😢

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Hi mamas! Are you eating and staying hydrated? I’m breastfeeding so i’ve tried to make it a priority to make sure i’m eating but that’s about the only motivation I have for it… I rarely find the time between him feeding and trying to keep up with the house and myself 😭 First time mom as well, I know it’s hard but maybe take a extra long shower just to have a minute to yourself! You’re not the only one, we are doing a great job just don’t forget to take care of yourself too 💕

Please speak to your GP about this. It may be just down to the lack of sleep, as the hospital suggested. However, there are other postpartum conditions that cause symptoms like you describe. It's better to get support now if you need it and the GP might have a different view on it x

I’ve never experienced that before but I know the nights can be so long with the feeding constantly, I can’t imagine how tired you are with a house move on top of that! Is your boyfriend back at work yet? I know it wouldn’t be much help but maybe see if he can change and burp the baby over night so you get those few extra minutes sleep between feeds? My husband is still on paternity at the moment and he will sometimes take our daughter downstairs and leave me in bed for an extra hour in the morning if I’ve been up feeding loads in the night. Do you have any family close by? Do you think they may be able to pop to yours during the day times to give you a couple of hours to catch up with sleep or help out with anything that needs doing at home? Hoping it gets better for you soon! 😘 xx

I'm seeing a therapist and that seems to help

Hi, my lo is 3 weeks now and she is my second. We found that me going to bed at 7pm and getting a solid couple of hours of undisturbed sleep (say until 10 or 11pm) works well. My partner stays up and sorts the baby while I sleep and then from the 10/11pm point I do all the night stuff and try to nap in the day if I can (doent happen often). My partner works full time so can't do all night stuff as he needs to sleep. It's not an ideal set up but keeps the anxiety and mania away just enough to cope with life until baby gets into a proper routine and sleeps a bit more. The anxiety in the evening is common I think, I was told its called sunsetting. But the first couple of weeks and months (really until the 4 month sleep regression)is brutal so be kind to yourself x

If you can, maybe look into maternity/night nurses? They are expensive, but even couple of nights can help so much! Regarding how you felt, definitely speak to your GP about it. Your health, mental and physical is essential for both you and your baby.

I had to take days where we would eat and sleep only. I didn't plan to do anything else but wake up and feed him, get him back to sleep and sleep myself. if you can, Focus on the rest of moving after you've established a routine or when the baby gets older and sleeps a little longer.. I am 10 weeks in and it does get easier!

Yes really struggling here as well. It feels relentless and endless but I just keep repeating to myself "this too shall pass" ❤️

Bless you what a scary night! I felt a bit like that in hospital, we hadn't slept for over 2 days and I got a bit delirious and as my birth was quite traumatic and mixed with lack of sleep, I thought it was all a dream! When I got home and slept j felt better! Sleep deprivation is wild! Do you have anyone who can help with baby while you go off and have a proper sleep? It will get better and easier and you will get good sleep again! 💜 I also think it's super common to feel anxious and scared in the evening, people call it sundown scaries! Where you're worried about how much sleep you'll get and if baby will sleep! You got this! 💪🏽 can your partner stay up with the baby for a few hours while you sleep?

I had siberying similar when I first returned from the hospital - it felt like an anxiety attack… I think. I’ve just kept talking/ crying when I need. This is my second child but way harder than my first, my partner dies the first shift until 11 and then I’m up most the night. My lo doesn’t like to sleep on her back so that’s hard.

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