Pregnancy with a Toddler
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Remember that you’re growing a baby which is hard and draining and of course makes you feel exhausted. Housework can wait. I assume it’s you feeling guilty rather than your partner making you feel guilty? Those are two very different things. If it makes you feel better, I have been in bed since beginning of May with hyperemesis and only this month started to get up and live a semi-normal life. My husband has done everything whilst balancing his demanding job. I haven’t felt guilty because he has it easier (not vomiting 24/7 for months on end) but also we are a partnership and having this child together. Try and let go of the guilt and focus on feeling better
@Vinaya ah thank you it's terrible when you feel so helpless isn't it! I think as mom's we put alot of pressure on ourselves to do everything and be everything for everyone. Thank you xx
@Laura that's awful my morning sickness is pretty text book and it's vile so god knows how you must be feeling with hyperemesis. I think it's just in my nature to want to be the mom that does everything, I know it's not healthy to think like that but wish I could switch it off xx
I have severe nausea and vomiting (not quite full blown hypermemsis) and my husband has to take on the bulk of the work. I do feel guilty but this is a shared responsibility. I’m growing our child so it’s only right that he steps up elsewhere. At least he’s not throwing up all the time or struggling through a fog of exhaustion. So swings and roundabouts haha!
Pregnancy with a toddler is no joke. My partner also has his own business, I work full time hours but in 4 days a week so I can have a day off with my 14 month old. The nausea heart burn and tiredness have kicked my butt this time, currently 26 weeks🤦♀️ we have just signed up for a cleaner as don’t feel like we can keep juggling everything. Give yourself grace 🥰
At first I wouldn't make my husband do much because he already worked 6 days a week then I thought to myself hang on, I work 24/7 really (and I have a business I work part-time in). It all became too much and I start snapping at my toddler and resenting my husband. I shared this with him and since he's started taking more tasks on board we're all much happier and im so much less stressed which is obviously better for the baby.
I was on partial bed rest during my second pregnancy and so felt guilty that my husband was doing so much for me and our two year old :) sigh. It’s ok…we have to keep the little one inside us safe and it’s a long 10 months, be kind and you can get all chores done one at a time when you can 😊❤️. Hope the viral infection goes away swiftly.