@Kenya i just want to say thank you…. I really realllllyyy needed to hear those gentle words you gave me. Part of me wants to leave my husband.. part of me doesn’t want to have that lack of trust and lack of feeling I’m not good enough.. but i love how you made me know that i am not alone also…because that’s exactly how i feel 😭😭 Thank you so much. Your words and encouragement mean more than you know.
So this is a him problem and nothing to do with how pretty or sexually attractive you. You are worth fighting for and don't forget that! Check out Sheila Gregiore's blog and podcast on sex and marriage. It's healthy and evidence based. Also.... this is a betrayal of your intimacy and you need to grieve and rebuild. Either alone or together, but not until you grieve and heal. So get a solo therapist and he should get one too. One that specializes in pornography addictions. Sorry I'm in a storm of no sleep and a rsv toddler.
Hey love. Lust is one of the biggest stumbling block for men (and even women) so your experience is similar to so many others. When it comes to overcoming the desires of the flesh, it’s honestly the work of the Holy Spirit that is able to help us overcome them. As a wife, I encourage you to pray that your husband will lean on the Lord and invite the Holy Spirit to help him overcome the lust and temptation. For yourself, pray that God would give you the heart to be gracious and patient while dealing with this. It can be hard but please keep in mind that the enemy uses lust to destroy marriages. He wants us to give up on each other when trials come but it’s an opportunity for us to seek the Lord harder!