Struggling with development activities
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Everything is stimulating to our young bubbas 😊 don't stress mama! Even having your baby on your chest is enough tummy time. They're still working those muscles and holding up their head. A trip in the pram/car/ whatever is stimulating. There's this new trend of having to do so much stuff that you really don't need to panic about. It wasn't like that 10 years ago when I had my first 😅 so don't worry. You're doing great just making sure she's happy and healthy x
@Emmo I didn't read your response before posting mine and we've essentially said the same thing haha!
@Blair agree, social media has us believing we need to be entertaining them 24/7! They're learning from you folding laundry, you don't need to end your life to entertain them.
At 3/4 months, all we should be doing is face to face time & allowing them to lay about & find their hands and fingers & toes. My LG is 15 weeks & I've over stimulated her which has caused pure hell in our house 🥲 but we have now got it down. Sometimes, she watches dancing fruits for 10 minutes and then I pop her in her bouncer & have her join me in each room whilst I do things. If she's screaming all day, that's fine. We spend the day on the sofa chilling, cuddling and sleeping. With tummy time, if you're stressed about it, leave it. I will say, I started putting her into tummy time on the L of my sofa & I sit right in front of her face with little cloth books and toys to entertain her & she will stay there for 15 minutes really happily, whereas before she was getting upset really quickly. You're doing amazing mumma
Don’t worry my son is 15 weeks and still hates tummy time. It’s hard but we just do a few minutes a day. I play music and Disney songs and we just dance around a lot
11 weeks old We only like tummy time on daddy’s tummy anywhere else and she cries or throws up but happy to be held up looking around and watching the world. I spent money on all the toys and sensory stuff and she does not care for any of it unless she is sat in the bounce chair or laying in the pram. And we also cried at baby groups but as the other mums said to me they all remember their first groups and the crying just step out take a break go back in, leave early if needed and go again the following week they soon start to love it
Please don’t feel bad at all sounds like your doing great! Mine spends a lot of her time just laying around watching us doing things or looking at her surroundings! I do tummy time with her (I’m lucky as she does like it) then I will do some object tracking with her, encourage her to reach out for toys by holding them out to her, lots of face to face chats, blowing raspberries, singing etc! But I really don’t over do it! I’m talking a few mins of each of these things a day - max! They really don’t need a lot of stimulation at this age. Also all of them have different temperaments so what one baby will enjoy/tolerate will be totally different to the next so don’t compare 💕! My first hated tummy time, being left on the floor, reading etc - she just wanted cuddles and boobs! Second is more than happy to just be left to her own devices on the mat and loves tummy time! Xx
Literally you just have to do what you can, if baby is just going to scream then it’s no fun for either of you and therefore what’s the point? Apart from tummy time I’d try to encourage her to do it on you instead (my baby’s 14 weeks and only just starting to tolerate it) all you can do is offer some play/stimulation time and if it’s not working then there’s no point forcing it! Sometimes my boy is in the mood for a story, play time, some singing etc and other days he just screams and wants to be held and bounced so I just follow him! X
Just be there, baby is so young they will hit marks naturally. I sing A LOT (terribly) and have some dancing. He has only started to like tummy time now and not scream.
Thank you all so so much for your reassuring comments, honestly it’s genuinely made me feel a lot less anxious. I think I have been focusing on how much other mums appear to be doing on social media and honestly most of my days are a matter of survival 🫠 xx
Mumma! We are all in survival mode. Social media mum's make it look easy, but behind the camera they're going through the same. We all have your back if you feel a wobble.
You're doing plenty, neither tummy time or reading are crucial. When you hold baby so they're supporting their own head, that counts! They will roll onto their tummy in their own time. Going out in the pram so they see the trees and sky is just as good as any contrast card, and talking to them is just as good as reading.