are you saying he purposely let her fall or was it an accident. unless I'm ready this wrong. he drank to hide the fact he felt like shit. and he got to drunk and said some very fucked up while drunk. 'I can't believe he let it happen' if those messages are from him he feels guilty as hell. if I'm reading into this wrong I do apologize I don't wanna make any assumptions 🥰🥰🥰
Everyone reacts differently when something happens to our babies. He was probably mad at himself for letting her fall. Ik I felt bad when my daughter fell off my bed but my bd didn’t make it better by yelling at me. There’s better ways he could’ve gone about instead of drinking. However I wouldn’t have put up with those messages. My bd does the same thing and I just reply with “k”
@Magen it was an accident he could have done more to prevent it but it was definitely an accident. I guess the thing that’s frustrating for me as well is that we are both prior military. He has a lot more extensive combat experience than I do, but he always says you know if shit hits the fan. I have no problem getting in there and making sure stuff gets done, but he literally ran out of the house.
idk its just different when its your own child. you freeze. but his messages are whack . maybe it really freaked him out. idk but doesn't call fornrhag behavior of resorting to texting like a high school female who just got dumped ,🥰
@Magen I’m glad I’m not the only one who go the hs girl impression
,😋😋we done it too many times as females. its not a mans nature to do that!!! 😎😎😋
He clearly felt absolutely terrible for it, and as you say, it was an accident. Even though you say he could have prevented, it was still an accident and these things happen. Although him legging it was definitely not his finest moment, nor was getting absolutely wasted either! Has your relationship been good up until this point? If so, I'd sit down and talk about it, and make ti clear that you don't blame him, as he will already feel bad enough about it
@Rebecca we have had issues with his alcohol abuse for a while and whenever he drinks he gets ugly. I never blamed him and tried to be really understanding just mainly focused on our daughter being ok. I think I’m just a bit jaded from all the alcohol bs
Manipulative victim bs texts at the end
I think you need to lay the law down - it’s ok to freak out and feel awful when bad things happen to the baby, but you need support and it’s not ok to disappear and get really drunk and manipulative/abusive. He needs to process feeling overwhelmed in a healthy way, so he can be a supportive father and partner. Even if he doesn’t remember, you are telling him how he acted isn’t ok, and he should respond to that.