I hate to say this but my BD is such a b****

Yesterday was a really hard day. While my boyfriend was getting our baby ready to eat. She fell from about 4 feet. Literally the scariest moment of my life! when she fell he literally ran out the front door. I screamed and grabbed my daughter no hesitation. By the grace of God, she is totally fine barely even has a bruise. The doctors at the hospital advised us just to keep a very close eye on her for 24 hours which meant I had to do it because he couldn’t even look at her without feeling like an absolute failure. Not that I blame him. I can’t believe he let it happen. it was just so frustrating that I had to be the strong one and I had nobody there to support me after seeing my daughter go through that. To help himself cope, he decided to drink an absurd amount of beer with a high alcohol content. Mind you he had to be up at 3 o’clock in the morning so that he could go on a flight for work. He comes and wakes me and the baby up at around 11 o’clock at night tells me how I’m a succubus and I prevent him from going to bed at a decent time or getting up at a decent time. I don’t wanna hear any of it so I told him to get the f*** out and go into the other room. Another 2 hours goes by and he comes back into the bedroom like nothing happened and goes to sleep. I asked him if he even remembered saying the mean things that he said to me and of course he doesn’t. Then proceeds to send me text messages like this where he’s trying to play the victim, this man makes me feel like I’m f***ing crazy and I’m so over it

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I think you need to lay the law down - it’s ok to freak out and feel awful when bad things happen to the baby, but you need support and it’s not ok to disappear and get really drunk and manipulative/abusive. He needs to process feeling overwhelmed in a healthy way, so he can be a supportive father and partner. Even if he doesn’t remember, you are telling him how he acted isn’t ok, and he should respond to that.

are you saying he purposely let her fall or was it an accident. unless I'm ready this wrong. he drank to hide the fact he felt like shit. and he got to drunk and said some very fucked up while drunk. 'I can't believe he let it happen' if those messages are from him he feels guilty as hell. if I'm reading into this wrong I do apologize I don't wanna make any assumptions 🥰🥰🥰

Everyone reacts differently when something happens to our babies. He was probably mad at himself for letting her fall. Ik I felt bad when my daughter fell off my bed but my bd didn’t make it better by yelling at me. There’s better ways he could’ve gone about instead of drinking. However I wouldn’t have put up with those messages. My bd does the same thing and I just reply with “k”

@Magen it was an accident he could have done more to prevent it but it was definitely an accident. I guess the thing that’s frustrating for me as well is that we are both prior military. He has a lot more extensive combat experience than I do, but he always says you know if shit hits the fan. I have no problem getting in there and making sure stuff gets done, but he literally ran out of the house.

idk its just different when its your own child. you freeze. but his messages are whack . maybe it really freaked him out. idk but doesn't call fornrhag behavior of resorting to texting like a high school female who just got dumped ,🥰

@Magen I’m glad I’m not the only one who go the hs girl impression

,😋😋we done it too many times as females. its not a mans nature to do that!!! 😎😎😋

He clearly felt absolutely terrible for it, and as you say, it was an accident. Even though you say he could have prevented, it was still an accident and these things happen. Although him legging it was definitely not his finest moment, nor was getting absolutely wasted either! Has your relationship been good up until this point? If so, I'd sit down and talk about it, and make ti clear that you don't blame him, as he will already feel bad enough about it

@Rebecca we have had issues with his alcohol abuse for a while and whenever he drinks he gets ugly. I never blamed him and tried to be really understanding just mainly focused on our daughter being ok. I think I’m just a bit jaded from all the alcohol bs

Manipulative victim bs texts at the end

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