Bonding
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Takes time, skin to skin and feeding are amazing ways to bond. Give it time and give yourself grace and honestly I'd just be happy for a husband who helps, not everyone will. You got this!
Even if she doesn’t show it, you’re her whole world, her everything. Bonding takes time and it’s common to feel like a human cow in the early weeks but you’ll soon have a beautiful relationship. Helps when they start to grin back at you!
How old is she? I felt like this for first few weeks too just felt like a feeding machine and didn’t get many of the cuddles or like you say couldn’t calm him down without feeding but he’s 5 weeks now and this past week I’ve definitely had some occasions where I feel more bonded x
I struggled with bonding with my LO and from 6weeks we did a baby massage course which helped massively! Skin to skin helps too but it definitely takes time. When I wasn’t coping and my husband had him he would have a piece of my clothing that I’d worn with him or a muslin cloth that I had used with him etc. it can be really normal not to bond straight away! You’ve been her home for 9months and you will be her no.1 in no time!
@Ellie she is coming up 3 weeks but she’s been having a hard time feeding these last few days so it’s been stressful. Which is probably not helping things. I’m hoping thr next few weeks I will start feeling more positive etc xx thank you for sharing your experience too x
My girl was always more unsettled with me than my OH to begin with. MV said it's because I smell of food. Now it's firmly the other way around, my OH can't settle her because she can sense me around. Skin to skin with you will most likely bring on her wanting to feed, and that's fine, it's how they modulate your milk and it is a big part of bonding. This first period of time is hard with everyone learning and lots of hormones. Hang in there xx