in Sex and Relationships with Railey Molinario

Irritated and not sure how to feel. Don’t know if I’m overreacting either lol so please say but be kind.

So me my partner and our son are going on holiday soon and I’ve paid stuff on my card like luggage, travel insurance even our sons birthday presents etc. He’s asked me to Tally everything up and send him his half of what he owes me. Yesterday he ordered us breakfast and in the evening I had dinner at my mums and brought him dinner home. He fancied chips so he wanted to order something and he said he will have the food I brought back tomorrow. He ordered a mix doner meat with chips and he insisted I get something I kept saying no and then he said get something so I just got 1/4 quarter cheese burger. So he said he will send me what he owes me and minus £25. So I said what is the £25 for and he said for yesterday food that I ordered. That annoyed me lol I don’t mind going halves with him for the breakfast but going halves for the food I didn’t even want? I just think there’s things I’ve paid for that you didn’t go halves for and I could easily ask for that too

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Sounds like a conversation with him. But I’d say pay this time and you do the same going forward

@Simi thank you

Make him pay for food your mum made…

I understand both going in on bills and food but I honestly would be annoyed if everything was being counted and kept track of. If he wanted food then he should be the one paying for it whether or not you got something too.

I feel the same! I didn’t even want anything. I completely understand go halves for breakfast even though he suggested it but we both wanted it. BUT the evening one I was slightly mind blown considering I said more than once I didn’t want anything then I gave in but I was good either way whether I had something or not

@Adriana I really want to bring it up in text but at the same time I can’t be asked to disturb my peace

Wait wait wait your partner with your son … you guys pay each other back? The man doesn’t pay for everything and your money for backup? That’s strange. My husband pays for everything and my money is just back up. He never tells me to pay him back and I don’t expect him to pay me back either. I haven’t met a couple like this. Sounds like it just brings stress to the relationship.

We don’t pay each other back, we just share money. All bills are paid and then what we have left over is for everything else. If someone wants to buy something for themselves we just let the other one know. Can you not look at sharing money rather than keeping a tally of what the other one owes you?

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