And congratulations! I gave in tonight. 😔 I also noticed his truck door open when I came home tonight, and the interior light on. Oops. I forgot to tell him. 🤷🏻♀️🤣
I agree with Alissa. The other option is yellow rocking. I am at the very beginning stages of divorcing my husband (and we have a 2-year-old) and your story sounds very familiar. It took me way too long to realize I was in a cycle of abuse, and my partner acts very similar to yours. I’m a few days out from finally physically moving away from him, but the last few days I have attempted to stick to the yellow rocking method, which I found in my situation to be easier to implement than grey rocking and also more effective.
@Sara what is yellow rocking? I've heard of gray rocking
Here’s a great article on it: https://www.onemomsbattle.com/blog/implementing-yellow-rock-communication-when-co-parenting-with-a-narcissist
This is the bullet I try to keep in mind the most: “Envision yourself talking to a colleague or an employer. Communication should be courteous and true to who you are, sans emotion and small talk.” It works for me because he can’t accuse me of being passive aggressive or uncaring.
Gray rock him. Very basic, boring, (one word if possible!) answers in a stoic voice, no emotion.