Relationship suffering

I’m going through the same thing and my bf has a hobby of gaming but since he didn’t work while I was in the hospital during labor he had to sell his gaming set up so the only time spend together is eating before he goes to work.

I'm in the same boat with my fiance.. I mentioned to him that even just him giving me a hug when he first comes home it makes a difference. Anything we do we made Thursday family day as that's a set off day for him bc of therapy. So afterwards we spend the rest of the day watching supernaturals most of the time and cuddling. Another thing he been trying to do since I brought up to him on that's how I feel when he gets paid he tells me to show up at his job then he goes on his lunch break and we have lunch together.

That’s a good idea, I’ll try that.

Is this your first baby? I think there’s definitely a hard transition with your first. My husband and I went through this. The biggest thing is now you kind of have to “schedule” time with each other. You enter a roommate/coexisting phase because all of your time and energy is going to the baby. Even for your husband, it’s now going towards working to support your family. It’s so hard being at home all day too with the baby. I’ve felt like my husband gets to carry on with his life while I’m trapped in a never ending cycle of feeding, changing diapers, and crying 😂 definitely scheduling time for yourselves and being purposeful about it can be helpful. And also talking to him about how you feel is important! He may not realize it’s going on (he is a man 😂) but then it might get worse and worse, so it’s good to discuss it already and work together to address it. Hang in there 🩷

Thanks, we have time today so I plan on talking to him. And yes exactly I feel like all I have time for/think about is the baby and don’t have time for myself except eating and taking whatever little breaks I can, but he still has time for his hobbies. I don’t think he realizes he’s always a little oblivious to problems and I’ve always had a hard time speaking up for myself so I usually just go crazy in my own head. The thing that makes me the most upset is he doesn’t try to spend time with me anymore he just wants to do his hobbies and I’m not interested in them, I’ve tried to get into one with him but he just ends up ignoring me most of the time because I have our daughter and can’t keep up with him. It’s frustrating

My relationship is suffering for sure as it did with my first born, but it’s a phase and will pass. I thought my husband was an idiot when my son was born and it passed when he turned maybe 5 months. Now my daughter is here and I’m similarly irritated with him often once again but I know it’s probably 1) my hormones 2) he doesn’t think like me and that pisses me off. Again, I know it’ll pass. We try to make time for each other at the end of the day and make a point to hug but…yeah it’s hard some days

I agree with Courtney, with our first it was ROUGH. We had to learn to make time with each other and how us being alone now is different compared to how it was before. I worked as a nurse at a clinic and the doctor who oversaw the clinic gave me one piece of advice and that was starting at around 6 weeks to make sure I spent time with my husband. Even if that was just once a week doing nothing in particular, to just stay connected. I never realized how right and valuable that was. Although it definitely is not always possible 😅 My husband becomes a completely different person when we're alone though, it's a nice change

Thanks everyone it’s nice to know I’m not the only one 😊

Definitely not alone. My husbands a great dad to our oldest but is definitely struggling with our baby. Has caused a lot of issues because I do 90% of the work with the baby because my husband loses his shit if the baby makes any crying sound. We tried therapy but he came in with a bad mindset so it wasnt working. Focusing on our daughters extra curricular activities seems to be the only time the whole family is happy and interacts with each other