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Time in I think is the route I will go with
I don’t really want to do whoopings honestly I never got them when I was younger but my man disagrees and said he will give whoopings. I wanna go more for a calmer approach with non physical punishments and conversation so that I can help my child understand why their actions are wrong but also so I can understand them well enough to prevent the bad behavior he doesn’t think talking issues out will teach our son anything but I feel like whoopings only work cause they cause fear but then what happens when they’re away from you or at school the fear goes out the window cause you aren’t in their sight.
So far, sternly telling her she made a bad choice has been incredibly effective. And using natural consequences (take away the toy if she’s using it inappropriately, if she throws her fork on the ground then she has to figure out how to eat without it, etc). We plan on using time out in future if needed
Depends on the situation but we do natural consequences and holding/sitting with our kids afterward while they go through their emotional rollercoaster from the consequence until they can calm down and then talk about what just happened or just love on them if they’re still too young to talk about it. And then find a new solution or a different thing to do 🤷♀️
I don’t discipline my children. I coarse correct. I educate. I help them learn how to regulate. I am their parent I am meant to be their safe space in the world. If they do something we talk about it. We figure out what went wrong and what to do better next time. Time outs and ass whooping did not help me as a child it caused me trauma and I am breaking the cycle so my kids do not have to unlearn bad habits and unpack trauma like I did.
You can have discipline without having punishment. Natural consequences and teaching moments.
For the most part I plan to do things like conversations, resets, and correlated/natural consequences
None of those. Honestly we just talk to her. So far so good.
Time in, removal from situation, explaining. We don't do time outs, or any punitive measures.
I do timeouts or temporarily take toys away. It works well for us
However I also redirect, work on calming techniques, or honestly it just depends on the situation asking my daughter pls stop or no thank u also works when she is doings something she shouldn’t.
Will be doing naughty step/time out and if really playing up a smack on the bum never hurt no body!
No ass whooping whatsoever! Calming techniques and speaking with them, it's worked for us personally.
20% ...don't discipline their kids?? Are THOSE the kids throwing entitled tantrums in stores I see? Like how do you just NOT discipline your children?
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@Tiffany I redirected when she was a toddler, I say no, I talk and explain things. Theres natural consequences, you don’t treat your toy with care then we remove it for example. And no, she’s not throwing tantrums, she occasionally has big emotions because she’s 4 years old but she has never done anything that I feel warrants ‘discipline’ like the other poll options.
@Lisa explaining why you're telling them no/to do or not to do something IS discipline too, and most toddlers do listen to direction when they have a comfortable, stable life
@Tiffany perhaps they don't utilise the other options. I don't do any of the options, but we definitely still have "discipline". It's the clear setting of reasonable boundaries in relation to the child's age and stage of development, and then holding those in a calm, confident, and consistent manner. Lots of communication. Lots of explaining, lots of guidance.
There are many ways to discipline children and since each child is unique, what works for one child might not work for another. Also, one should consider age appropriateness. I have an 11 year old daughter and 7 year old son. I’m about to take away devices/start having my daughter write sentences. My son will get his devices taken away but I don’t find that to be effective. I got whoppings growing up… not every single time though, I don’t really feel a way about it but I honestly can’t say if they helped or not and so I’m not against it but it isn’t my first choice for discipline.
Natural consequences are so important! Teach them why you said what you said and let them learn that actions have consequences both good and bad. Teach them self confidence, self regulation, and how to communicate. We do not spank out kids. They have always had a regulation space but that’s never been used as a timeout where they are there alone. We would go with them and help them process big emotions and now they go whenever they need it before making bad choices.
Natural consequences, talking things out and time out
I do natural consequences first, but I have done spankings. If it's something really dangerous that we've already had many conversations about. Example: my almost 4yr spinning the baby really fast on the baby swing, or putting a pillow over the baby then laying on it 🤦♀️ other than something like that we use time out and object taking. We have been working on "it's ok to cry but not ok to scream and kick" we don't say to dry it up or quit crying.
We utilized many different forms including spankings and time outs.
Natural consequences, I will never use physical punishment
Time outs and spankings work the best for us.
@Minnie ew you can’t be serious right
@Tiffany I think it was 20% of people who just don’t use any of the options above!
Calm corner/natural consequences/talking to them like a human.
You said child, so I’m thinking 5+ so I’d do time outs which means time to collect yourself and TALK about what happened. Not just leaving them alone with their thoughts. Because guess what they aren’t thinking about what they did wrong.
Other. We’re going to do logical and natural consequences
We do “resets,” where she gets a few minutes to sit on her bed and take deep breaths. Typically, she’s done a 180 attitude wise and able to do what we need to do!