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girl there is literally no amount of weight that you could gain that would make it okay for him to speak to you that way. if my partner told me something like that then I'd say "ok I'll just take myself on dates then" and I'd leave the baby with him and go. hell I'd even take the baby sometimes and just leave his ass at home. I'm around 30 lbs heavier than I was pp, I'm currently at the highest weight I've ever been around my partner, and he treats me exactly the same as he always has. your husband is being an asshole.
Petty Sarah says lose the weight out of spite, and then divorce him
I'm so angry for you right now. If he thinks he has the right to criticize your weight, then I assume he must weigh exactly what he did when you first got together, right? No hair loss either or any kind of change to his physical appearance? Also, did he grow a human being inside of him and feed it for a year? Because if not, then eff that guy. Marriage is supposed to be "in sickness and in health," and if he can't show you the love you deserve when your body changes, then he is not holding up his part of the bargain.
Your husband is a jackass. He does not deserve you at all. What a dick.
He's disgusting like wow
Wait, what did you say about him that you’re comparing it to??
@Anne that I want him to go out with me and go places. It a request. So he sees his as a request as well so if I want him to go out then I should do his request of working out and losing the weight consistently
yeah no screw that, OP. leave his ass at home and live your life, don't wait on him to stop being a dick. then when he throws a bitch fit about it, tell him that you wanted him to go but he chose not to.
😢 Go to the places anyway and see if he figures out the point. 🙄 With no context, I can’t really tell if he’s a total butt or just being super dense (I hate it when people on here jump to divorce as the answer to everything). But those are super hurtful words nevertheless. 😢
I would totally get all dolled up gorgeously and be like bye I'm going out.
He sounds like a jack ass. Who wants to live with someone who is such a dick. I'm just speechless. So sorry for you
The only weight you need to lose in your life is the couple hundred pounds he’s weighing you down with. That is such a hurtful thing for him to say
What you need to here is leave this abusive arsehole and never look back
Is he referring to your weight though? Just checking as I have to remind my partner frequently about hygiene and his dress sense when he starts living in tracksuit bottoms. I don’t mean it harshly but I say to him I’m not going out with you dressed like that. I wouldn’t use words like disgusting etc that’s abit much but I wasn’t sure if you’re inwardly focusing on the weight as that’s what you feel anxious about. I know a lot of women don’t have the time to go get their hair done or feel like dressing nicely daily so please don’t take this the wrong way.
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Kick him in the balls
@Nichola I don’t take anything wrong, ask questions if need :) yes it’s my weight. I shower, change clothes, brush and other hygiene every day. The “take care of yourself” is about exercise and losing weight to “fit into your old jeans again”
What an absolute jackass! I'd just start going out with friends if you can. Even take the baby with you if he's a crap dad too. Just go have fun without that horrible person dragging down the mood.
@Kelsey I don’t have any or I definitely would 🫣
So like, he's saying "you look overweight and therefore I'm embarrassed to be seen in public with you" I assume he's always been intensely fat-phobic?
Put him in the bin. What an absolute heartless bastard. Does he not know you bought life into the world?! My partner wouldn’t dare say that to me and if he did I’d be livid
Incognito, don't worry I don't either. That's why I'm on this app 😂 just go out yourself and do something you enjoy then. Take the baby out on an adventure 🙂
Ew he's disgusting, honestly, GARBAGE. Just throw the whole man away. You don't need him 🤢🤮 I'm so sorry he's speaking to you like that, but you really don't deserve it. Also you carried his child. This is just gross and not okay.
So sorry mama to hear ur story, post partum is really hard and horrible for most mamas. Just ignore him, love ur baby a lot, and make a plan about ur food and ur exercise, even 10 min. If u want to become more valuable in life, please respect yourself and your plans ,then u wont need his rude ass anyway. By telling him or arguing with him, u dont prove him anything, and u cant shut him up. Just do u and get up and exercise, i promise everyone hate exercising bc its stupidly different 😶
Please dont listen to these mamas here, hating on men, and telling u to leave him. U can leave him when u cam afford to. But for now work on yourself instead of arguing and getting angry at his stupid head, he is totally wrong ,but u do u for yourself and ur baby, be healthy and fit. Then rich and leave his butt
Hey mama sorry to know you are going through this. I may be able to help. Are you in Canada?
You are absolutely not in the wrong and your husband is absolutely disgusting and disrespectful!! What he said was absolutely wrong!! I am so sorry he said that to you!! The quickest way to lose weight is to dump his ass! You will feel better without his nasty comments!!