Am I crazy?

I feel like you’re right. Go with your gut feeling.. because why would he search that?!

It could be that. Or it could be that he doesn't want you to get the wrong idea and looked it up before he addressed it. It depends on the kind of person that your husband is. It could also be one sided. I say don't press the issue anymore and observe. Take note of things that he does that normally doesn't happen, or late nights etc. My partner is... oblivious and he has done the same thing except he doesn't lie about things he just waits until he has the full picture to tell me about stuff. You know your husband and your dynamic. Your feelings are valid, but it might be better to come with more concrete evidence. That way you can make your moves based on how he responds.

Throw away the coffee and bread and say you just don't feel good about them. He will think you know something and maybe he will say who gave it to him.

I feel like you’re right as well. Smh he’s being sketchy for sure and it’s giving he either likes that she’s flirting/the attention or he likes her

Eat the bread and say you don't know what happened to it

It may mean something different in the US. But in UK wouldn’t bother me. If he had really wanted to hide it he wouldn’t have bought it home just left it at work to eat. Weird he lied about who it was from though so can’t comment on that part. Me and my other half wouldn’t think anything about each other going for lunch or drink after work with person of opposite sex if a coworker. You usually need to with managers etc anyway x

The fact he lied and searched that suggests something sketchy! I’d be digging deeper to find out who this b *tch is

Sorry but the fact he googled that is making me laugh so much - is he just super innocent or super stupid? 😂 curious what the answers on google would be… I wouldn’t have a big issue with the gift, I’d have issue with the lying. Like why lie if you’re not hiding something? But then I also wouldn’t think anything was going on because if there was he wouldn’t need to google what it meant 🤷🏻‍♀️

Have you reacted poorly like this before? It's bread. A co-worker knows what bread he likes and gifted him this BREAD for his birthday, and this is somehow an issue? Like this shouldn't be a thing. I pay attention, and if I was friendly with a co-worker, I would gift them something I know they'll like for their birthday or Christmas. It's not necessarily nefarious. Have you even spoken to him about this? How do you know he lied? Because he looked it up, he couldn't possibly be telling the truth? It couldn't be an older colleague? Him looking it up is a bit odd. It's more odd than the gift itself, which isn't odd at all.

@Katrina He seems to be so innocent that's why he looked it up.

@Paris I like you 😂😂

I may be wrong but maybe he knew that you would overreact hence the fact he lied. My oh has brought home presents and cakes before. I really don’t care who has given it. Most of his staff are women and younger. Bread and coffee doesn’t seem like an extravagant gift either.

Sounds like she’s nice and he’s the one trying to figure out if it could be anything more than just bread…

No you’re not crazy. The fact he lied about it and googled it are all red flags. I honestly would not make it a big deal so he’s not on alert but I would be keeping an eye on his social media, work chats and texts and call logs here and there to see if there are any other stuff going on.

It’s possible (but unlikely) he lied and googled that because he was worried that she likes him and not because he likes her.

I second this last comment

The lying is the problem yall she’s not tripping about the bread itself. He straight lied to her & then looked it up like a weirdo so clearly he thought the gift was off too but why lie? 🚩

I think he was unsure what that gift meant, and probably didn’t say toyou bc he was scared you’d freak out. I would take Paris advice and pass by her office one day ;) if that gives you reassurance and of course ask him without making assumptions about that gift… just open your heart to him and explain you are a bit confused about it. See how that goes. I imagine he is not cheating or anything otherwise why would he look it up on the internet?

@Roxy, how do we know he lied though, she hasn't answered people's questions. Is it not possible it was an older colleague? Also, he googled "detailed," but honestly, coffee and your favourite sweet treat aren't detailed gifts. Unless you rarely get to eat your favourite treat for some reason. Is it odd that he googled it, yes. Is it a red flag? Absolutely not. We do not have enough information to go on. I'd find it odd and communicate with my partner.

@Hannah she said so, why would she lie about her own situation?

I'm not saying she is lying. I'm saying she may think he is lying when he isn't. As I said, we don't have all the information.

@Hannah he lied because on his way home he told me that an old lady had given him those things but at home the next day I went on google to see if I can find something out about my health and I typed what does it mean … and that’s when the google search appeared that he had looked it up

Again, how do you know she isn't an older female colleague? Also, I just googled "what does it mean..." and a whole bunch of stuff I haven't searched popped up 🤷‍♀️ I'm talking things like; what does it mean when you dream about snakes, when your poop is green, when you dream of someone, when a cat licks you etc I haven't looked any of that up, and neither has my partner. Have you talked to him about this?

@Hannah yeah I talked to him and he said he didn’t want me to think bad. I asked him and he said she is 23 so … not old. And also because there was a clock on the side where it was searched meaning someone had looked that up before.

Fair enough. Have you reacted like this before? Could he have just been wanting to see if there was more to it so he could handle it?

@Hannah it hasn’t happened before at least to my knowledge. We talked and I have let it go. I know it isn’t super serious but also wanted to get someone else’s opinion