There's a strain on my marriage
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You need to rest. This time is temporary. Every pregnancy is different so for somebody to tell you to do more is ridiculous. Some people can’t even get out of bed when they’re pregnant. Maybe seek counseling during this time if you feel he’s not able to communicate what you need from him. And don’t feel guilty. You are going to bring yours and his greatest joy into this world and that takes a lot of work from your body. Give yourself grace. He can take on the extra work for now. Some people have to do everything on their own, so both of you should be very grateful to have each other.
I’m someone that doesn’t like to ask for help, and there was a lot of times where I couldn’t do anything and my partner had to do everything for the home and for me, I also have two stepdaughters he was caring for during all of this. I definitely felt bad but he handled it and I was able to rest when I needed to. I just kept reminding myself that this is temporary and once I get to a place where I have my body back and the baby is less demanding I can return to all the same things that I used to do before.
You got this mama!! Don’t let your marriage stuffer and definitely speak with some sort of marriage counseling!!
I think you should rest. Your body is telling you exactly what it needs. Every pregnancy is different… with my first pregnancy I couldn’t do anything but puke and sleep for the 9 months. I’m on my second pregnancy and actually able to work and my nausea was completely gone by the second trimester. With my first pregnancy a job and everything was impossible! I just slept. And puke lol 🤣 So please don’t be hard on yourself. Literally rest and listen to your body. You also might be anemic so please check on that!
This sounds like u just described my husband. He had a very traumatic loss when he was younger and it caused him to shut down emotionally but over the 12 years that we've been together I've been able to get him to talk to me if I take the lead in the conversation fully. By that I mean I ask very direct or in depth questions and don't stop until I get a satisfactory answer without trying to make him to uncomfortable. He's made it clear to me that he has this ONE friend that he can totally open up with easily and at first it bothered me that he couldn't easily open up to me but someone else but now I'm just happy there's someone he can talk to if he feels he can't communicate with me. But we've also got a subscription to the app called "paired" it's a great app and has been very beneficial to our relationship and marriage i 100% suggest it
Make more of an effort to do things. Don’t get me wrong, I know it’s hard in the beginning, I’ve got 3! But unfortunately when you have kids already you can’t just stop. Maybe he’s feeling a bit resentful if he’s doing a lot more and needs some help!