Sick partner

Hey guys! I suppose I’m writing this as a sounding board or really just so see if I’m only one. So I’ve suffered a lot with post partum resentment toward my partner now I’m definitely not nearly as bad as I was but in the last year he’s started to suffer from migraines ( we are currently getting medical help to see what’s up ) and it’s really making me angry, I’ve never been this way before the baby. I’m basically a single mam due to how frequent and long the attacks are for, i just feel it’s so unfair is health has made him undependable and me exhausted. I know he can’t help it and isn’t doing it on purpose but I’m so pissed off I just wanna avoid him. He feels I’ve no sympathy and since it happens so often starting to just not care ? Any tip or if you suffer migraines any solutions ?
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I am sorry you're going through this 💔 I can try to help with migraines but I am not a proffessional. Is he taking any otc painkillers for them? I am suffering from chronic migraines and I found it helpful to take 1soluble aspirin + 1000mg of soluble paracetamol (2 tabs paralief) to make them work quicker. Alternatively use ibuprofen INSTEAD of aspirin (DO NOT TAKE THEM TOGRTHER) Otc migraine drugs usually contain caffeine too to speed up the drug working but make you awake so don't recommend them before sleep. I prefer to just drink mine in a cup of coffee 😁 Aside from that when I saw a migraine specialist in hermitage I was advised to limit the ibuprofen/aspirin (NSAIDS) to 5 a month. The reason is that if you take more your body starts "fighting" the NSAIDS sending stronger migraine signals making dugs ineffective from fighting the migraines (you're stuck with migraine and no drugs work) *That can also make migraines more frequent!

Aside from the medicine. Hydrate, make sure to get fresh air every day (even 10min walk can do wonders). For medical professionals to help with diagnosis it's good to keep a journal of triggers with dates and severity of the pain from 0-10 where 0 is migraine free day. Mine are for example: washing hair 😭 (it has been confirmed by migraine specialists to potentially cause migraines because of temp changes to meninges - tissue between brain and skull), weather changes, lack of sleep, no fresh air, stress, salty food, dehydration (not drinking enough water) pms, not having coffee that day, too warm in the house (or too warm day), fever

Oh and because of noise sensitivity I find it helpful to wear earplugs those days until migraine goes away if I can't just lay in the dark room until it does (which realistically never happens) Quies foam earplugs are really nice and soft. You're not supposed to theoretically reuse but I do and never had issues 🤷‍♀️ (untill they start to look gross) you probably can find them in the local pharmacy (tricolored ones)

That’s incredibly helpful thank you !!

Im sorry I have no helpful advice but just want to wish you well. Your entitled to feel resentment and your guilt for doing so just shows that you do actually care and know this isnt really you. This was suppose to be your time to heal and be supported and unfortunately now the roles have reversed. Make sure when your partner is having a pain free day that you allocate some time for peace and rest for yourself. Its all exhausting, be kind to yourself.

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