Is this inappropriate?

First off you need your husband on your side I think, if you say no but husband says yes. She will keep doing it. How old is baby?

Tell your husband he needs to be on your side cause YOU are uncomfortable with it. If he can’t see that then maybe you need to leave for a couple days after mentioning it to MIL or something? Cause I’d tell my mil to back off and have before.

@Kiera he’s 9months. To be honest I don’t think he will see a problem with it although I’ve previously mentioned I do not want anyone kissing him on the mouth especially with herpes and flu season I don’t know where your mouth has been. It’s difficult to have him on my side because his parents can do no wrong, he acts more like a son than a husband. I’ve even mentioned him still kissing his mum infront of me on the lips, he acted all perplexed like it’s a norm

I don’t even kiss my own baby on the lips and I would be mortified and go insane if anyone else did! You definitely need to bring it up with your MIL and husband and say how uncomfortable it makes you or it will eat you up.sending strength that you have to live with the in-laws. I hope you get out soon!

@Lindsay at this point in time I’m exhausted and it’s always something in the 9 months of my son being born. Also I’ve just come back from being away for a week, I might just go again. I just can’t wait to get our own place. Feels like I’m an alien here but surely I’m not being ridiculous, because I get you’re a mum too but you shouldn’t be parenting my child like yours (I’ve seen your work not 100 percent impressed)

@Pia thank you so much, I really appreciate it! It is really eating me up, I’m just in the room thinking how to bring it up because I’m just going to be met with, oh another complaint we can’t do anything right by you.

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That’s cause your husband needs to be a big boy and stand up for his wife… that’s not good and will always be an issue if he can’t have your back. So what. Say what you need to mil and then peace out for a bit. Let everyone calm down and start looking. My mil in basically told me and husband she was kidnapping my child for a day/night… he had my back 100%, his mother doesn’t know how to parent.. and can’t keep up with her and neither can my FIL cause he has COPD and is on oxygen… she barely sleeps for anyone but me… but they don’t understand that, and I haven’t told my husband that either haha 🤣

Honestly I feel like I’m going insane because surely, these are the things you’d think about. How it is okay ??! My own mother doesn’t kiss baby on the face

Would it be passive aggressive If I drop a message in the groupchat? It’s cold and flu season, please be mindful to not kiss my baby However I know FiL will comment that need to expose him to germs for his immune system But not potentially germs that could be detrimental to his health

@Lindsay he honestly does! Truly is frustrating. She’s said that aswell before, always tends to talk to baby when I’m in the room and it’s always passive comments, ‘ I heard you crying last night I just wanted to come for you and you spend the rest of the night with me forever but I know it will never happen. Mentioned it to hubby he said oh she’s just Saying, it’s not going to happen. That’s not the response you want to hear. Currently looking for a place!

So I’m normally always on the (soft) understanding side but if this MIL has always been this way, since you stated she still kisses your husband on the lips, did you really not think there would be boundary issues to deal with later on? My only advice is that if your husband isn’t on your side and you have to convince him because of this weird relationship with his mom, you will most likely have to be okay with being seen as the “wicked witch of the west”. Own it. You are the advocate for your child. I have support from my husband and I am still seen as “evil” right now, but I personally don’t care because who are you to tell me what I can or can’t do with my own child 🥴 I always feel bad for people that are living with their in laws because that ties your hands even more. I’ve gotten to the point where I’ll say it once or twice, otherwise I just control the room and take the baby. Deal. With. It. 😎 good luck mama!

I wouldn’t have married a man who kisses his mom on the lips.

@Bethany I already mentioned to him I’m uncomfortable with that and it’s just started again

My boy has just recovered from being unwell for over 2 weeks after my MIL peppered him with kisses on the face. There were some nights me and husband took shifts to monitor his breathing it was so terryfying. Feel free to use us as a horror story. If she tells you it's rubbish that it's dangerous for babies, I can tell you first hand that it's very real x

Mine has done the same. As a newborn she was blowing raspberries in her face. With the way the sun shines through the window I could see the spit flying out of her mouth 🤦 I've told mine numerous times not to kiss our daughter on the face (especially lips). Some don't listen until you mention limiting contact to protect your baby. I have cold sores because my grandparents didn't think about my well-being, as a mother you don't want your children to experience the same. Throw a mask at her face and tell her she can either respect babys boundaries, wear the mask, or leave your home.

Share this story on your social media if they are on there and it should get your point across https://www.google.co.uk/imgres?imgurl=https%3A%2F%2Fcontent.api.news%2Fv3%2Fimages%2Fbin%2F2478fe811a95d51a77627c5af739e39b&tbnid=E4UCmIkJfX7kaM&vet=1&imgrefurl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.kidspot.com.au%2Fparenting%2Fmum-warns-parents-not-to-kiss-babies-on-the-lips%2Fnews-story%2F7c2516d7d3624896e66b225d56e0aa01&docid=A03K645nRuQAJM&w=1280&h=720&hl=en-gb&source=sh%2Fx%2Fim%2Fm4%2F3&kgs=38c68732a55270c9&shem=abme%2Ctrie

Sooo inappropriate to me and my boundaries I would not be around her for awhile and baby would not be going there