Am I selfish/the arsehole? BE HONEST haha

So me and my babys dad aren't together but he's been living with us to help out, he leaves for work every day at around 6am and gets home around 4:30pm - when he comes home he doesn't help out etc and then at the weekends he stays in bed till around 3pm and then gets up moans he's hungry and again doesn't help out. He's got another child and was meant to be seeing her yesterday (but didn't get up until it was 'too late' - sadly this also happens pretty much every weekend he's meant to see her - for context hes seen her 3 times in almost 4 months) yet we tried getting him up and he wasn't having any of it. Anyway come today me and my baby have plans (already booked in with people/times) yet I've been called a selfish c*** because I won't change my plans for him for my little boy to see his sister. We kept yesterday free for it and HE was the one who couldn't be bothered to get up to see her! Please do tell me if wrong (I can take it) I just don't personally think I'm being unreasonable.

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you’re not wrong at all! you made plans, and he’s a flake. if he wants to spend time with his daughter and his son TOGETHER then he needs to stick to plans in the first place otherwise you can’t rely on him to stick to it, and you’ll end up spending your weekend doing nothing because you’re waiting around on him to see whether or not he will see his other kid. you’re not selfish at all, ignore that arrogant asshole xxx

100% not in the wrong . What’s the point him even living with you if his lazy ass doesn’t help out at all. Furthermore he needs to make a better effort with his other child not you. You done your part! Xx

Where on gods green earth here are you in the wrong !!!!! I’m so sorry to put it but he really doesn’t sound like a good dad. He sounds like he doesn’t give a shite about either of them and that is so sad. Kick him out - he is no use there! And if he wants to see his children - he will do it. Sending lots of love ❤️