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My babies father and I have been together for 11 years and are not married. He works 8-12hrs a day and comes home and hardly sees his daughter some days.. I’m so mad because he agreed even though he would be working he would help take care of the baby through the night and he keeps pointing the finger at me because I’m a SAHM until October 21st he keeps telling me idk how it feels to work and take care of a baby.. mind you I cook, clean, do laundry and feed the animals, he said I have no reason to complain about me taking care of our daughter because I don’t work, all he wants to do is come home and play his games.. not only that on his days off he wants the whole day off while I watch our daughter, he also gets mad even though I will tell him 3x before hand that I will be going to do something on his day off (like the store, because her car seat takes a lot of the basket room) he gets annoyed because he has to take her. We are in therapy because it’s what we agreed on, we have been in it for a month, I don’t think it’s working, I am not sure what to do anymore.

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He doesn’t understand that looking after a baby and/or child is actually a full time job but the difference is that job doesn’t have a clock in and clock out time it’s 24/7 😭 so the least he could do is give you some alone time when he gets back or on his off days even if it’s just for a couple hours xx

He sounds very immature. Going to work and then playing his game ? Like really. So he doesn't brig anything home. If he was single he would still go to work and would have to come home, clean, cook, do laundry and be a responsible men. You are not his slave. If therapy doesn't help him to step up and be a grown up, I would throw the whole men away.

It’s so hard. Maybe have a weekly schedule of sorts. Ppl like to come home. Shower. Eat and decompress. Maybe say you get one full hour to relax after work. But first! Do some dishes. Say hi to your child and I’m getting a 15 min break. 🧡

Maybe even certain days for gaming. Like Wednesdays and Fridays game for 45 min after dinner or something. And alternate who cooks what days…. Either can add some positive change and some pressure off of your back. They can pick up their own damn clothes and put them in the DORTY BASKET lol. And cook good dinners two days a week.

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