Am I wrong?

Hi ladies! So I want to know everyone’s opinions and I want to know if I’m wrong for saying something or feeling the way I do. So I have two children now, one is 2yrs and the other is 2 weeks old. My husband tends to go out with his older brother or his friends to events and stuff right. Well I always get upset at him because 1.) he never ask me about it or tells me about his outings until he gets ready and the person is outside already, & 2.) he tells me that he never understands why I get so upset about him always going out whenever he wants. Keep in mind I do not have friends out here in Vegas or I barely even step outside the house and if I did, it was to do Uber(to work practically🙃). I get upset because he is always telling me “well you can go out” blah blah blah, him knowing I don’t know anyone out here. If I go with my sister he always talks shit about her for me to feel bad and not go. Tonight for example, he told me that he was going with his brother to a concert. Of course I got upset and told him that it’s unfair. He proceeds to ask why, but I’ve explained this to him multiple times. So he states “what you want me locked up here all the time?” And I simple respond with “well I am locked up all the time, but you never seem bothered by it.” He decides to stay, but I’m upset too that he did that because now i feel like I’m going to be the one to get all the heat and anger for not letting him go out. Soooo please ladies, let me know if I am wrong for getting upset??

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Didn’t have to read far you have a 2 week old he should not be leaving you period

@Sadie exactly what I was thinking! But I always get told “I’m tripping” when I try and explain it to this man🙃

@Isabel have you ever left the kids with him ? For like more than 3 hours

Girl I’ve left my 2 yrs old with him while working Uber during my pregnancy! I would never leave my kids with him for me to just go out, reason being is I do not know anyone to go out with lol. Like why can’t this man go out with me instead ya know?

No of course and rubbed me the wrong way saying locked up here your with your family my man plays soccer so he’s always at the soccer field usually I go with him but one day I had to help my grandmother and he had the baby and I think he realized it wasn’t that easy what we do and waking up through the night and cleaning , and one time he said something about dishes not being done and I stopped doing his laundry , he learned real quick it’s not easy to do everything by yourself so it made him appreciate what I do at least that’s what he told me

No!! You are not wrong at all. I am currently dealing with the same thing so I get your frustration

And I’m on my way we’re gonna have a mom night bc no way maybe I’m just crazy but my man never goes out without me and I don’t go out without him we both don’t like going out without the other

You right but its important the way you deliver the message to the Man bcs they take it on a different way then we trying to explain it. He takes it on the way that you complain bcs you have no friend and its not his fall and what you want him to do also have no one and stay home thats how he takes it. Just try to talk to him not when its the issue comes but at the time when both on a good mood to talk. Simply explain how you feel and what you missing and how would be great if you can go out together sometimes and if he he loves you and cares ask him to inform you when he leaves next time before time so you can prepare mentally staying with your kids along. Also very help full if you can leave kids with him sometimes go so your nails or just have your coffee time walk little recharge mentally so good for your mental health and good for you so he can see how it is. Man change fast ones they have that experience with kids along. Hope you guys find compromise 🙏

Ur not wrong for speaking up he should be staying home with you taking care of y'all kids with u .. especially with a 2 week old you need all the help u can get so you don't stress but he's causing more stress than u need which is ridiculous

@Sadie girl I need one lol but I do not go out enough to find friends here in Vegas lol

@Olga Boussaada I totally understand this! Maybe the message doesn’t get delivered right when we both are in bad moods, but the times I have I just do not know if it goes in one ear and out the other. I hope one day he understands you know

I’m sorry, but your husband’s behavior is really off, especially now that you’re pregnant and already have kids. First of all, he should definitely ask if you want to join him or if you're okay staying home alone. Of course, it’s important to let him spend time with his friends, but from what you’re saying, it sounds like he’s mostly going out by himself and not inviting you—that’s not okay. Second, he has no right to talk badly about your sister, especially if it upsets you. So he gets to go out and have fun, but you’re supposed to stay home and be bored? And as you said, he doesn’t even invite you. That’s not right.

saying "well I'm locked up all the time and you don't seem bothered by it" doesn't really feel like the way to get him to change his behavior. It definitely comes across as I'm stuck home, be stuck home with me vibes. Many men are dumb and need it in plain English not a guilt trip. Tell him you want to go and you want to be invited out more. Tell him to keep his opinions of your sister to himself because that's family and you don't let her talk about him that way so why would you let him talk about her that way. Tell him you don't care of he goes out but you need a week advance notice or more.

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