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@Victoria honestly could make this shit up🥲😭 he has the audacity to say to me, why are you stressed…. As if I’m not a mother to him as well most days. Apparently it’s a crime for me to do what I want and to relax- bare in mind he smoke 20+ fags a day and is screaming at me for having one
He left you for 12 hours when both you and your son were sick, so he could drink???? And he had the audacity to berate you and insult you for having one cigarette?? That’s never okay, especially When he spent all drinking. It doesn’t sound like he respects you or loves you at all. If you are thinking you should leave, and you have the ability too, do it. For the sake of your health, safety, and happiness. And for the sake of your son’s safety and happiness as he ages. Sons especially learn how to treat people from their father’s treatment of their mother. Consider if you want your son to see your treated like this, and if you want to risk him treating your son the same way a gets older. I wish you the best, Good luck 🙏🙏🙏
If you honestly think he won’t change and that he is of no benefit to your son or support to you then plan your exit and leave in a few months. So many women just leave with no plan and then end up going back as it’s easier. Sort your finances out, find a rental, sort childcare out and make sure you have income coming in. I hope you feel better, I’m shocked he left you both :-( that’s not normal loving behaviour :(
If youre not 100% sure, I would definitely go on a break and both co-parent so he can see what its like to parent alone. Maybe make him realise how much you actually do and how hard it is. And make it a little difficult for him on purpose if you can. Like, dont compromise on timings x
You deserve better mama! Much better, for you and your son! I hope you both feel better and I hope you are happy soon 🙏🏼
Honestly you should leave! It seems scary and it seems so hard now but it will get easier and better as you adapt to single mum life!! Especially as your priority needs to be your boy and your happiness
You are not in the wrong!! He really shouldn’t have gone. Yes it’s ok for them to go out all day planned in advance and all that but seeing as your both really poorly he should have made the decision not to go. Stay strong mama you’ve got this 🫶🏻
Oh wow, I’m so sorry you are having to deal with this. That is disgusting off him I know the issue isn’t him going out but it’s about knowing his priorities. I’m sorry but I don’t think his family is his priority. That is so selfish and disgusting he chose drinking over his sick wife and child. My husband whenever I’m sick god bless him takes days off work to look after me and my daughter. I couldn’t do it alone. A sick a baby is soo hard them being cranky, tired, sick, loss of appetite but don’t even get me started on a sick mum and a sick baby together that is the most hardest mentally and physically draining job ever. He definitely is draining you mentally and emotionally. He is not worth your time or presence. He doesn’t care about your well-being and mental health. You deserve better ❤️
If it’s been constant negative behavior it’s going to get worse, I didn’t realize the signs with my ex I thought it was “just a bad day” & “he’s going through a lot” & “he’s depressed and frustrated” and it was times when I wanted to end the relationship or if the relationship ended I didn’t mind it but it indeed got worse to the point where he left me pregnant and was mentally, emotionally, physically abusive… so I suggest saving yourself and your kid from his toxicity. 💚💜
Your happiness means more than being woth an overgrown child but dont leave without a plan and some money! Wish you the best of luck im sorry youre going through this 🩷
I’m sorry he left u and ur sick son for 12 hours??? U have Covid and he left u for TWELVE HOURS???? Jfc I would be so exhausted. u r not in the wrong. Ur partner sounds like a selfish prick if I’m being honest. And then he has the audacity to get mad at u when he gets home?? U deserve better. I hope u and baby feel better soon!