It’s ultimately resentment at your husband. Not regretting your daughter. You need to put him in his place and get the help you need and rightfully deserve.
Oof I understand this more thank you know except I got a third boy 🥴 my husband is great though but I didn’t want to get pregnant and having this last one has made me miss who I was before.
Gently, I don't think your issue is this last baby. I think your issue is that you have a terrible partner. I would go back to my family and have a happy life with my children rather than live with a man-child who plays video games well into the night and leaves all of the responsibilities to me.
You don’t resent your child you resent your husband. Being a parent is hard but it requires a team effort. He’s not doing his part AT ALL. His life should change too. Video games come last unfortunately he has children & a partner to help. I would sit him down and have a conversation with him and explain that he needs to pull his weight & do his share of things!
I feel you on this, more times than not I regret having my kids, it makes me feel so sad to admit it because I just want to enjoy them but they're hard work!! And I'm married, all 4 of my kids have the same dad, he does some but not a lot so it feels very much like I'm a single parent all of the time! It might be resentment to him but I understand the regret you're feeling as well x
It doesn't sound like it's the child you resent, it's your husband and rightly so. When you have a baby both your lives should change, it's a joint responsibility.