Husband

Without sounding rude here, of he's not spending time with you what is he doing that makes him an amazing father and husband? Because surely spending time with you is just an essential for anything else he would do? I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. It sounds like you need to have a talk, and it may not be a comfortable one, but definitely necessary x

I'm sorry you are feeling this way. Do you think what you really need is a friend? If your husband is amazing, it sounds as though he is doing everything else right apart from spending some time with you like a friend would. Could you try initiating the time to hang out, like "I've got a movie for us to watch", or "I'm going to give us both a pedicure" or "I've made some special snacks for the evening. to share" etc to try and win him into spending time with you.

It’s so weird like he’s said to me he feels like we spend plenty of time together because we’re in the house together (he works from home) I feel like just seeing me around and exchanging a few words is enough for him 💀

My husband is similar here works long hours away and when he's home he's a great dad but would mostly rather just be gaming. It's his hobby so fine but I've made it clear he shouldn't be doing it when baby is awake as he watches the TV screen, maybe you could try similar. When he's home for dinner time we make a point of eating together so that's our time together otherwise initiate activities as men just don't think sometimes. E g. If I want a chat on his days off I find it good to go for a walk or do some diy together or go to a cafe if we just sit about at home we aren't great at spending time together so making that time is important

Could have written this myself 🤷🏼‍♀️, it’s definitely hard, I see the gaming side of things a pain in the arse but they also need a release from work. I do make digs at him especially on weekends. He does get it eventually and we end up watching an episode of the program we like. I think I get worked up as I have no release of things like he does as I’ve always got the kids or I’ve got the house today and it gets overwhelming at times but I would maybe have a chat with him and tell him how you feel I know he said he feels like he spends enough time with you but make it clear how you feel it will maybe open his eyes a bit x

I feel you!! My partner is the exact same; working or gaming but still an amazing dad. But it does get lonely not spending the same amount of time together we once did before baby. I'm currently in bed ill and out little girl woke up with him this morning forcing me to be up. I just asked him to take her so I could get some more sleep. He did take her thankfully but I didn't get that extra sleep