Am I wrong to feel annoyed?

I'm 17 weeks pregnant and finding the exhaustion hits me mid afternoon at the moment, I have to push through it most of the time because of work or looking after my 3yo, but it's Saturday and my daughter and husband were out at the park so I decided to have a lie down. It'd only been 10mins then they both got home, I explained I was knackered and stayed put for a bit. At some point I guess I fell asleep, and after an hour my husband messaged me to ask me to make dinner which I obviously didn't see. The next thing I know I can hear raised voices in the kitchen and he's losing his patience with her, and sends her up to me, shouting my name up the stairs and she comes up. Then he's disappeared and she's climbing on me and hitting my head, wouldn't really talk to me it's like she angry and she's been sent up to take it out on me! Then she climbed down off the bed and bumped onto her bum and started crying, so my husband comes running asking her what's wrong, and saying to me "are you getting up?! It's dinner time!" ...OK, but yknow what I actually trolly need right now? Sleep and rest! I'm off food and not hungry, I can eat later if I need to. But it's not about that, he's clearly just annoyed at me being in bed when he's losing his patience with our 3yo, and I'm just so annoyed at that. Is it really too much to expect him to manage for a few hours while I rest? I look after her on my own 2 full days a week, and he can't do an afternoon when I'm pregnant and need to prioritise my own energy for once 😢 Maybe I'm over sensitive right now, but I hear of husbands being really supportive and mine just seems to resent me for taking a couple of hours.
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Oh hunny. I’m so sorry, sounds like a rough day. I can totally relate to your situation, I’ve had my husband tell me he’ll look after our toddler ‘to help me’. I had to remind him, it’s called parenting not helping me!! It’s so frustrating and I hope you get time to rest during this pregnancy and please remind your husband it only gets harder when the 2nd baby comes and he needs to do even more with your toddler. Xx

You're not over sensitive. He's pathetic! And really selfish I have a 3 year old and am currently 30 weeks pregnant, but if I need to rest, my partner will tell me to go get to bed. No way would he say to me when are you getting up it's dinner time he leaves me in bed for as long as I need

So sorry hun, you aren’t being sensitive! I’m 17weeks myself, and it has not been easy. Try having a chat with him once the dust settles, but don’t push yourself too much. You are pregnant and need as much rest as possible! Sending hugs xx

You should speak to him about this situation and de brief with him. Having 2 kids is more work so let him know u need more help and some rest. Teach him a few dinners and lunch ideas so he isn't relying on u

You are literally growing a human. And the first trimester is the worstttt. I was so freaking sleepy and nauseous the first trimester. I was napping everyday. I sincerely hope this was just a bad day and not a regular occurrence.

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