Am I wrong or am I right?

So my mom & my siblings have been living w us for about 1.5yrs. She was getting kicked out with no where to go. So me & my husband been convinced her to stay w us for the sake of the kids. So it’s her, 3kids, and her bf (who hasn’t worked since hes been living w us) For the first year, she paid us $500. When her bf got a job he quit after 3mths. When he was working he paid us $300. So in total they were suppose to pay us $800. According to my mom, that was too much. After he quit and being a year we told her she had to pay $650. So keep in mind, they both don’t help buy groceries, bills, or help around the house. So yesterday we got into because I asked her when she was going to the grocery store to get food. She asks me why. I told her because the kids eat up all of my daughter’s fruits & my husband’s snacks. And the only reason why I let them is because their mother hasn’t went to the store for almost a mth to get them food to eat. I cook dinner every night but when they get home from school they’re hungry. So anyways we get into it and she says what she pays is enough and that $100 she gave us two weeks ago was enough for us to buy food( we spend about $250/wk on groceries and $500/mth on meat) usually that meat will last us about 3ths, but w them here, it lasts barely a mth. And I told her instead of budgeting for food, she spends it on weed or food for her. Next day she sends me a text that her & her bf are supposedly moving out at the end of the mth. But she asked if the kids could stay here w us. Which I said yes. My husband thinks she should pay $350 for the kids to stay here. Personally I wouldn’t charge for the kids since this is nothing new to me. The less I gotta deal w her financially the better bc it ends up w stress and disappointment. My husband says other wise. So my question is, should I agree w my husband & charge her $350 or should I just let the kids stay w us no charge or just have them not stay w us at all?
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If she didn’t pay for groceries for 1.5years and is complaining about her $100 i dont think she’s going to give you those $350 😓

I think it’s very important to set boundaries, i think you shouldn’t let the kids stay either. You have to put yourself and your family that you have created first. I would say let the kids stay and charge but i think after the first couple of months, she is gonna stop giving you any money for the kids. ( idk your mom obviously just going based off what i read and my assumption)

If the children are staying with you could you take her for child support?

@Pagan idk how that would work but I doubt it 🫤

@Sahra Morgan and that’s what makes it hard. Cus I know I have to put my family first but since the kids were born I basically been responsible over them. They really have nobody but me. That’s what I was telling my husband. She’s horrible when it comes to paying/paying back money. So if the kids were to stay w us, I rather do it without expectations. But he says he wants her to pay so she doesn’t feel like she has no responsibilities. It’s also hard bc the kids never had a stable house till they moved in w us. They either jump home from home or sketchy hotels. Their mother does things for her comfort without the kids in mind.

I agree with the husband because it sounds like this is about the kids eating all the food in the house and not having enough money to buy more so yeah, I’d definitely charge them or they can leave. I’d be frustrated as hell if i couldn’t feed my own family because others who stay with us eat it all and won’t replace it.

Oh wow this is a tight situation. Honestly you and family have to come first . I feel like you can support from a distance you know . People will do what you allow . If you think it’s best they stay with you definitely have her financially help and if they disagree then the kids will have to go with them .

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