Idk how to process this 😭
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I’m sorry 😢 I’m glad you’re okay🩷 Did you plan on having more children ?
That is a lot to take in...scary situation and heartbreaking outcome. So proud of you for trusting your gut when you knew something was wrong! I also think that you should give yourself time to grieve this loss of your dream for your family. It's still a loss and still worthy of being mourned. Praying for you ❤️!
i’m sorry this happened to you :( but yes your OB is right, once you have a uterine rupture getting pregnant after that is extremely risky not only for you but the baby. I would definitely take some time to mourn what you considered a dream family but also take the time to think about how lucky both you and baby are to be safe and healthy!
I agree with everyone else saying take some time to mourn but something that might help you to hear is everything happens for a reason. You have 2 healthy children, to risk potentially something awful happening to their mother or risking the trauma of a still birth, sometimes we need to let go of plans and be grateful for what we have. I'm really not trying to be mean by saying that and I realise it could likely come across that way but it's what someone had to say to me. At the time, it wasn't what I wanted to hear, but retrospectively, I'm so glad she said it to me. So, I'm offering up myself as the bitchy tough-love woman who might offend you but help you in the near future.
My sister was advised after her 2nd not to have anymore due to scar tissue as both hers ended up in emergency sections. She found this news devastating also as she always wanted three. I know it's easier to say from someone not in your position but think of the two healthy perfect babies you do have and if you did go for a 3rd what are the risks and are they worth it? It's a lot of news to process at the time
I feel you. It’s hard when everyone keeps saying to be appreciative and blah blah. I know you are appreciative already. But easier said for some of these people when they aren’t in the situation of having everything you dreamed of ripped apart. I’m in a somewhat similar situation where I found out I have cervical cancer and took almost a year for me to decide to get over having a bigger family, and that I should be grateful for my one that I have and take care of her and not be selfish. The day of surgery (hysterectomy) is when my doc and I found out I was pregnant, and to top it off with twins. So I went from wanting a family of three or 4, to giving it all up to being completely surprised/ freaked out at the fact of having twins and cancer! let’s just say don’t set your mind on anything. I think anything can happen still.And you can feel upset, and hurt and disappointed. Don’t let people take that away from you like they did to me.
Thank you Everyone 💜 I appreciate everyones kinda words and love advice. I will def be talking to my therapist to help me greive this loss and what I wanted. Its so hard to grasp when you don't feel complete yet or done with having babies. I have a lot of what ifs in my mind and i guess that comes with greif process. But thank you everyone 💜 It means a lot. My husband and I have cried a lot together hearing this news. So it will be a journey of grief we'll travel together on. Also, this is the first time I have seen my husband cry so much.
I’m on my 3rd C-section. Im currently pregnant with my last and this is only my 2nd child. I’m 16 weeks tomorrow. And the way they cut my uterus with my emergency C-section in 2019, I was 22 weeks so they had to just cut it and get her out in time to sew me back up and get me blood. So due to that they want me to have my babies in my 37th week due to risk of having my uterus to rupture. So it’s possible to maybe have a third. Just have to be high risk and maybe deliver earlier than 37 weeks but make 37 weeks your goal to get to. You’d just have nicu time if you delivered earlier than 37 weeks is all.