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I see where you are coming from wanting those things without having to ask, but no one can read minds. I personally don’t think it’s weird/embarrassing to ask for a massage or to pick up something you want from your husband. If you haven’t voiced it, he might not know how sick you are feeling. It’s totally normal to be needy when you aren’t feeling your best (I was like this too earlier this pregnancy) and I’m sure he would love to know that you want his love/attention/gestures to help you cope :)
I definitely can feel awkward or embarrassing to ask for something, but I agree with @DMS , mind reading is not a thing, especially when he is already doing what he knows to do to serve your family. One way to approach it that honors all he is already doing that you love could be through the compliment sandwich. Thank him for all he has been doing for you and your family and letting him know that if he ever wants to make you feel extra special, x,y,z options would help you feel better as you deal with some of the physical challenges of pregnancy And then thank him for something else he is already doing. I like to put myself is the opposite shoes as well, if my husband was feeling a like he needed something more from me to feel loved or appreciated I would want him to tell me, not just expect me to know.
This EXACTLY. My husband says “well you just have to ask”, and he’s right he’d do anything I asked.. but I’d just like him to be thoughtful enough to not have to be asked. We just have very different love language I think.
Yes I get this! I have 2 boys and while he does everything for them since I've been super sick. I just wish he asked more often how I'm doing. I've tried to talk but didn't find it helpful. He's a great husband and we are just in a challenging season.