being home all the time

I am a 21yr old ftm sahm. i am home majority of the time granted even before i was pregnant i have always been an introvert. but tonight my bd decided to go to a football game and it hurts that he didn’t even think to ask or offer. even if i said “no” because of the baby is only 2 months so don’t really want him out in a loud crowd ( it’s a homecoming) at least he still offered. or he could have arranged for either of our parents to watch the baby and we go. i love being a sahm, but it gets extremely lonely especially because i’m so young i see everyone else my age out on a friday night when all you do is stay in the house. i do go on walks ,but those only help but so much

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Definitely join some local mum groups!? Maybe baby swim classes? It can get lonely, especially when at home. Take care mummy ❤️

Invite mommy friend (s) over Dance, chat, margaritas, watch a fave show

Why not buy some baby ear muffs so you can go? Go to some baby and me events in your area. If you really wanted to go, you should ask and organize baby sitting. I make a point to get out of the house at least once a day and attend local family events. My baby is 2.5 months

Not to be rude, but you're holding yourself back and using baby as the excuse

I’m 21 too and I feel this so much. Part of me feels like I’m missing out on so much. My daughter is 1 and exclusively breastfed (mixed with meals as well but she doesn’t take a bottle) so I feel tied down even more. Taking care of her though is the best thing that I’ve ever accomplished though and she is my world. So I try to remember that when I feel so isolated

Does he always need to invite you? Sounds like you typically say no.

Mama after you have a baby is normal to have a different. It is completely normal not to go to party’s or whatever events we were going before having a baby. We should just grow up from ourselves “before”, and learn to enjoy the “after” selves as mom. Now our purpose has change, YOU HAVE CHNAGE, you should change and fully accept your new role will all the responsibilities and risks. As if you had gotten a new job and you have e completely new job description, you adapt, you change, you become your best version of yourself. I know is hard to be 21 and SHM but being a mama is the most joyful feeling in the world with the all the hardships. So enjoy, watch movies, have a drink, get dressed up just a random Saturday morning, dance, go out and feel the beauty that surrounds you.

@Amanda Amanda sounds like you’re typically rude. You came back 2 hours later to say more rude shit 💀

Aww, you've got to tell him how you feel! He probably assumed you wouldn't be interested. See this as a very fixable miscommunication and suggest a fun way he could make it up to you. I bet he will agree to whatever you suggest (within reason). 🙂

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