Overwhelmed

Anyone else feeling super overwhelmed? This will be my second baby so would have thought I would be a little more on top of it, but feel like I’m so behind and just not sure what to do with myself. Will be 34 weeks this Sunday and already been told I’ll be induced at 38 weeks latest, so we have only four weeks left (give or take) to make sure we have everything and start getting things set up. I kept a lot from when my daughter was a baby so we have so much stuff we didn’t need to buy again… however, over the past three months we have started to buy the things we don’t have and i genuinely don’t remember it ever being this expensive?! I feel like we’re spending so much money and I honestly think we would be screwed if I hadn’t kept what I had kept. Not only that but overall it’s just a ridiculous amount of stuff?! We live in a two bed (just the three of us) and yet somehow had more room when we lived with family. I’m sat here looking at our bedroom and it’s just baby stuff everywhere and I have no idea how I’m going to store/organise it all. I bought large ikea wardrobes for my daughter and the baby… the cupboard for baby is already full. I washed all the clothes/blankets/sheets during summer so I could get it all dry quickly, but it means there’s not really many other places to store everything else like toys etc. There’s still things we need to buy and I’ve only now realised the next pay day is likely the last pay day before baby is here so a lot of the things I have to purchase need to get bought this month (the expensive things like breast pump and steriliser) which I don’t even know if we can afford to do. My partner is being pretty chill about it all right now (he was with our daughter) but I’m freaking out with all the things I have to sort in the house still, which is very hard to do as I literally can’t stay awake most days or have the energy to get through everything that needs sorting and I know that’s not going to get any better. I managed to get our room moved around and organised last weekend to make it functional for when baby is here, but all the baby stuff has just taken over and I feel so deflated. Its so different this time, daughter only just started school so we’re still getting used to the routine, I have 6 hours a day where I can get things done but I’m either not feeling good or just don’t have the energy to move my butt. I’ve only half packed my hospital bag, which I know midwife is going to question if it’s done when I see her this week. Don’t get me wrong I am looking forward to when baby is here, I know it’s going to be hard balancing two kids but I genuinely am looking forward to having my body back and hopefully a little more energy. Right now I just feel like I’m in survival mode, I’m on iron tablets but have issues with my liver and the medication is making me feel yuck. It’s a miracle that I’m able to get my daughter up and going in the mornings, let alone keeping on top of the house and all the errands as well as getting everything ready!
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Commenting to say you are not alone and also because it sucks to pour your heart and not get a response. If it helps it is 05:30 am . I could only slept for 2 hours . I am tired, moving houses and also getting over it. I am looking forward to meeting my child but the pregnancy journey has been alot.

It’s hard being pregnant with a toddler. Could you buy some things second hand? With our first, we had so much things second hand and we kept everything so have not bought anything at all for this baby. I picked up a replacement Moses basket for free as our last one wasn’t very good. There are local online Facebook pages where lots of people give things away for free. I’ll be regifting our things after this baby too.

We are also lacking space as we live in a tiny 2 bedroom house but we’re in the process of buying a bigger house.

I’ve used Facebook marketplace to buy all my baby stuff and have barely spent a penny. Got a lot for free on there and other stuff for absolute bargains First baby, and I’ve literally spent less on the baby than I’ve actually saved on not being able to drink alcohol 😂 & I wasn’t a big drinker anyway ha

Hope you’re okay! I would say make lists, I literally don’t know how I would’ve coped without my lists I would’ve just forgotten everything and got overwhelmed and also marketplace as much as possible. In terms of making space, try and get rid of things if you can otherwise try and be smart with your space as much as possible, if you can vacuum pack the bigger sizes for now/everyone else’s summer clothes and store somewhere can this make more space for you? Me and my partner are stuck in our studio flat about to welcome our baby any day due to the chain falling through and totally relate to the small space/stress of it. Best thing I can say is make it practical, find space elsewhere to use. Even add a second hand chest of drawers to the lounge if you can as a side unit with hidden baby storage in the drawers. You got this!

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