PLEASE‼️

The fact that your husband doesn't see the severity of it. 🤢

I’m so sorry. Never take your eye of your child around them, they clearly don’t care about how insane and illegal all of their behaviour has been.

This is the thing that scares me about the other family 😭. You just don’t know people and you don’t know what people will do to your child. Your husband might not see it as bad as you do because he’s grown up with it and maybe been told it’s not that bad, it probably feels normal to him as that’s the environment he’s been around. My (ex) MIL would always take photos of my child and post them into group chats that had random men I’ve never met or know and it would really make me angry because men can seem lovely but they now have this photo of a young baby on their phone and can do whatever they like with it and share with whoever they want so I stopped sending anything but she still takes them when they see each other. I would say you absolutely go no contact and protect your child and if he wants to continue speaking then let him but you are not involved and neither is your child for your safety.

@Lesley he’s very likely to have been abused by what the poster has listed, very sad x

@Amy thanks for another perspective. I didn't see it that way.

@Lesley this! He’s completely different from them and struggles with finding out all of this at such an older age. However his mother treated me like shit our entire relationship. At some point she would agree with her and use our relationship as leverage for me to conform to their families beliefs. We finally figured things out , went no contact, got engaged, got married and had a child. From there everything began to come out. The mom looks like shit (after telling me for years I wasn’t good enough for her son and wasn’t raised right), no teeth, sagging face, and it finally came out she was an addict. They hid this for years. Right after we got married it came out his brother SA’d a few kids in the family.

But tbh I agree 😔 I struggle with his mindset concerning his family. They lied and said she was no longer on drugs. Of course they blame me for keeping him away from his family. And I’m just like… oh not the fact the mother is on drugs, the brother is now on drugs, and all of the other bull crap both his immediate and extended family choose to hide. Im the bad guy because I don’t want to go around, I refuse to let the brother even face time my son, and now that it has come out that she’s still on drugs I’m ready to back away from talking to them again. It’s never ending.

@Amy emotionally and verbally yes. Especially when he was young. He turns into a completely different person when he’s around them. He can’t stand up for me or my son really. So I told him that we shouldn’t go around until he can figure out how to do those things.

@Kerry literally!!! And the parents condone the brothers behavior. Told the families that their kids were lying and he wouldn’t do any of those things. He’s had allegation after allegation. Now he’s on drugs and it came out that the mom is on drugs. It’s hard for me to feel bad for any of them because of the way they treated me and my husband, especially me when we went no contact. It’s insane. I feel stuck. I have a good and caring husband but the family and his reaction to me when I set boundaries is CRAZY!

It’s probably due to embarrassment because who wants to admit to those things. Those poor kids who were the victims to it. I would say it’s just best to stay far far away and not have any relationship with them. He can do what he wants but you’re not involved. Yeah setting boundaries is so so hard and most of the time people like that don’t respect it and they’re acting like it because no one’s ever stood up to them or questioned things so for them your behaviour is weird. Best to let them get on with it because it sounds like nothing will change

@Kerry you are so right!