Oh gosh, I really feel for you! It's so frustrating being around people who want to see your LO but don't do anything much to help you even when they see you might be struggling. I dont like being around my mil too often for similar reasons. I feel bad to say it, but she is also lazy & will try to tell me what to do instead of using her initiative to actually help & I got so burnt out seeing her every weekend I had to stop & distance myself. I'd say as it's your own mum, tell her how you feel & that you like seeing her but that you're tired & need more help. Say that if she isn't willing to help that it's unlikely you will be able to see her much as your pregnancy progresses and once you have 2 little ones as travelling to her and her not even being able to carry a bag or pick up your son is going to be more difficult on you with another baby.
I dont think you are being dramatic, having a toddler is hard and adding pregnancy and then a newborn is going to be more challenging. I think Grandparents do need to realise if they want to take an active role in their grandchildrens lives they have to maintain a certain level of fitness to be able to run around after them or like you said crawl around with them at the softplay. My MIL can't do any of that either & you want people around who are helpful. It doesn't help you if you come back from a visit to your mum's more physically and emotionally exhausted than when you arrived it will take a toll on your health
Awee 🫶🏼🫶🏼💔💔 I feel u on this . I experience something similar. It’s difficult. I tried to talk to my mom but it’s just who she is and I’ve decided to just love her for who she is and not have any expectations of her. Bc she raised 7 kids and lots of grandkids so by the time my baby was born she was already too tired … I couldn’t ask more from her .. but it does break my heart not seeing her too affectionate to my baby nor helpful to me 😢. But it’s ok she did her time and sacrificed already with me . I just gotta be grateful so I don’t go crazy and depressed
Sounds like we have the same mom.. literally 💀