I don’t know what to do

I’m scared I feel like I’m not attracted to my boyfriend anymore, he doesn’t take care of his teeth as in even brush them, and he has a ton of tooth problems, he complains every single day of pain and I feel bad but there’s literally nothing I can do about it. He’s taking a shit ton of Advil every single day, don’t like that. Super dangerous and I told him so many times, and even his parents tell him not to do so many, I understand he has pain but sometimes too much of painkillers won’t help. Anyway, he was off last 3 days and played video games so much, just annoys me. He didn’t do the dishes after I worked, came home cooked, and he couldn’t clean up after? Ok. So the dishes got dragged all the way to my day off and so I cleaned the apartment up. He can play video games and go hang out with his buddies but can’t clean up, I hate coming home to a dirty house. He was off and I worked I ALWAYS clean when it’s vise versa. He has pain in his back or foot or something, he had this previous I think it was sciatica, and doctor told him to do stretches before and once he got better he stopped and now he feels the pain again. He says it’s probably cus he’s overweight and I told him well if he thinks it’s that he should do something about it like workout and he will not workout for the life of him. He says he will diet, barely does that. Not sure what he thinks dieting is but eating a whole pizza to yourself is crazy to me. Annoyed he doesn’t care about his health, and I have to be the one the hear his pain all the time and again nothing I can do about it. He had to call in ambulance because the pain was so bad he couldn’t get off the bed I fear it’s going to be like that again, I wanted to go to state fair so bad this year so bad, cus last year I had my daughter and couldn’t go of course, and we went this year which I appreciate my boyfriend for the sacrifice but we had to leave early cus he had pain, I just wish he was in shape so he didn’t have all these problems. I feel like I’m getting super annoyed with every action he does and I don’t know how to deal with it. I don’t know what to do. I feel like I don’t see him how I once did when we barely started dating

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sounds like you should end it girl. if you’re not attracted to him & the very thought of him brings you irritation it’s easier to go head and depart. speaking from experience

It sounds like he is suffering from some mental health issues. People who are depressed tend to not take care of themselves. Couple that with something else like ADHD and you get a person who only does whatever will give them a hit of dopamine... Like video games. He needs professional help cause like you said it's not something you can do. I would tell him either you get help and I will support you or you don't and I will be leaving.

@Mariah I almost want to say I agree with you but I truly want to try one last time to give it my all before up and leaving, I really appreciate the feedback though thank you.

@Sarah i think this is it because side note his dad has cancer, so i would feel absolutely terrible leaving at this point in time. But he is not making it easy staying I want to tell him to see someone but I don’t know how

i understand that girl, been there done that. just don’t let outside things like his dad having cancer keep you trapped in a relationship you truly don’t wanna be in (praying he gets better & becomes cancer free). i gave my situation two last chances & ended up leaving as a single mom. luckily i found my husband who’s stepped up - so don’t settle bc you think better isn’t out there. i can tell you there is

It can be really hard to talk to someone about these kinds of things and in my experience men are more against seeking help at of the times. I would have a conversation about it and put it into the perspective of you and what this is doing to you and how he can make it better. Ex: Working, taking care of a child and trying to matain the household is very overwhelming. I really need some help. I see that you are struggling as well and it is affecting our relationship. It hurts me to see you in so much pain all the time and to see you not caring about yourself. I don't have the mental energy or desire to continue this way. I would like you to get some professional help. I would be more than happy to help you find someone and get an appointment and I'm more than happy to support you on your journey to getting better. What I can't do is continue living this way. If this don't start improving I am going to have to look at living elsewhere.

If you are able it also might not be a bad idea to talk to a therapist yourself. They are there as a third party to help you advocate for yourself and they will have many more ways that you would be able to have these conversations. I really wish you all the best.

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