It sounds like he is suffering from some mental health issues. People who are depressed tend to not take care of themselves. Couple that with something else like ADHD and you get a person who only does whatever will give them a hit of dopamine... Like video games. He needs professional help cause like you said it's not something you can do. I would tell him either you get help and I will support you or you don't and I will be leaving.
@Mariah I almost want to say I agree with you but I truly want to try one last time to give it my all before up and leaving, I really appreciate the feedback though thank you.
@Sarah i think this is it because side note his dad has cancer, so i would feel absolutely terrible leaving at this point in time. But he is not making it easy staying I want to tell him to see someone but I don’t know how
i understand that girl, been there done that. just don’t let outside things like his dad having cancer keep you trapped in a relationship you truly don’t wanna be in (praying he gets better & becomes cancer free). i gave my situation two last chances & ended up leaving as a single mom. luckily i found my husband who’s stepped up - so don’t settle bc you think better isn’t out there. i can tell you there is
It can be really hard to talk to someone about these kinds of things and in my experience men are more against seeking help at of the times. I would have a conversation about it and put it into the perspective of you and what this is doing to you and how he can make it better. Ex: Working, taking care of a child and trying to matain the household is very overwhelming. I really need some help. I see that you are struggling as well and it is affecting our relationship. It hurts me to see you in so much pain all the time and to see you not caring about yourself. I don't have the mental energy or desire to continue this way. I would like you to get some professional help. I would be more than happy to help you find someone and get an appointment and I'm more than happy to support you on your journey to getting better. What I can't do is continue living this way. If this don't start improving I am going to have to look at living elsewhere.
If you are able it also might not be a bad idea to talk to a therapist yourself. They are there as a third party to help you advocate for yourself and they will have many more ways that you would be able to have these conversations. I really wish you all the best.
sounds like you should end it girl. if you’re not attracted to him & the very thought of him brings you irritation it’s easier to go head and depart. speaking from experience