Ladies, I need your help.

I’m in a 6 month relationship with a man whom I love and I just don’t know what to do right now. There are three incidences which have occurred, the last one bringing me to a place of reflection… He has gone to the strip club before, stayed the night at a “female friends” home and lied to me about it, and then made a humiliating slight against me because of my terrible choice in partner in the past. Saying “good job” and “I upgraded” …like (?) ok. Last time I checked I’m the one who determines that but anyway. I feel disrespected and like I’m not sure when something like this will happen again, just feeling embarrassed and ashamed of myself, and confused. I find myself rethinking whether continuing is a good idea. If anyone is interested in please helping me out or needing more context just text me! Thank you much luv🤍

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@Mariah thank you🤍 I really do. I’m not sure what to do and I’m trying to be forgiving but at what expense?

Three incidents in 6 months is a lot AND so early in the relationship. Once you can chalk up to ask learning where the lines are or getting used to having a partner to "answer to." This many intentional displays of disrespect are showing you who he is. He should still be on his best behavior this early on so if this is his best, how much worse will it get when you've been together 5 years?

Lying to me about going to a strip club and sleeping over somewhere is a huge red flag to me. If he can't be honest about that then I couldn't really trust him. And for me trust is very important in a relationship.

Honestly? Him and this relationship sound like more far more trouble than it's worth. Like others have said, to have this many issues so early on isn't great. Unless you truly believe that this guy could be your soulmate and positive life partner, what have you honestly got to lose by walking away before it gets worse, and allowing yourself to find better? Life is far too short to stay with someone who doesn't make you happy! Feel free to message if you want to talk things through 🤍

Not much of an upgrade if he’s causing you feel like this. Being that you’re a new single mom it’s sounds like you deserve so much better, you deserve an upgrade 😌

Having that many big red flags so early in a relationship is a bit iffy. Good for you to be aware of what’s happening and questioning it. Ultimately, follow your gut and instinct and always choose you.

I’d say move on. Future you will be thankful you did when you hopefully find a man of value and morality. Someone who will cherish and honor you.

Leave him.

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