It sounds like both of you are struggling with something. Is it possible that if you acknowledge his feelings then in return he will be respectful of yours? Or just straight out tell him how you feel when you arenāt in an annoyed or irritated state maybe heāll be receptive? I know both of your emotions are out of wack right now and you both need to give each other and yourself some grace thru this time. It also just helps to come here and vent like you did! Good luck momma I wish you the best
No your not being an asshole but heās acting incompetent. If heās the stay at home parent and your the working one(which I canāt believe your back to work at 5 weeks pp. I wasnāt even driving my car at 5 weeks my mom or husband was driving me around) then he needs to do his job of taking care of the kids and meals. Ans the behavior of saying ākā and walking away is childish af.
Sounds like yall need to have a conversation. And I mean one where you each listen no matter how difficult it might be to have. Make sure you are using āIā statements and not āYouā statements. You are a team and still have your own feelings and with out communication you are just assuming and reacting to something you donāt fully know. From experience with my husband if I didnāt ask him to do something he wouldnāt think to do it. So now we have a system where I ask and will even write it somewhere for him so he can see. This way he knows and he can do it before I get home.
Sounds like depressionā¦ I wish I had advice for you mama..
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you are definitely not the asshole- this sounds so hard and im really sorry you are going through this right now - you sound so freaking selfless, patient and understanding. If hes the stay at home parent hes gonna have to create structure amd routine for ur girls bc thats what they need, and what the whole family needs. If heās not up for that then he needs to be working and providing income. Really sounds like youāre doing it all and heās just a body in the room while youāre gone. Being a stay at home parent is a job and he should take that seriously,