Husband rant 😒😒

Ladies, please tell me I’m not the only one who feels like as soon as your husband sees you trying really hard to just be happy and have a good day he has to make it all about how bad his day is and how shitty he feels. Like this morning, I took our newborn with me to go get my husband and I coffee, expecting him to start breakfast for our oldest, which he didn’t, she was still in pjs and in the playpen. Then proceeded to turn down every suggestion I had for breakfast and when I got excited about something our kiddo did he just said “k” so I walked away and HE got defensive because I was “not thinking of him” in that moment. I am 5 weeks postpartum and just went back to work last week, he is the stay home partner and I’m really struggling with that. I don’t like being home all day, I don’t really want to be the only one taking care of both of our girls all day everyday but I hate myself every single second I’m away from them, even tho I love my job I hate it because I’m not home but I also hate being home. So I’m really struggling and trying really hard to maintain a good attitude through this but every time he makes it all about him and his “big feelings” with out even acknowledging everything I’m dealing with because he can’t hold down a job, I just want to tell him to do it all himself and figure it out without me because I know he couldn’t. But that just makes me feel even worse. Am I just being an ass hole?

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you are definitely not the asshole- this sounds so hard and im really sorry you are going through this right now - you sound so freaking selfless, patient and understanding. If hes the stay at home parent hes gonna have to create structure amd routine for ur girls bc thats what they need, and what the whole family needs. If he’s not up for that then he needs to be working and providing income. Really sounds like you’re doing it all and he’s just a body in the room while you’re gone. Being a stay at home parent is a job and he should take that seriously,

It sounds like both of you are struggling with something. Is it possible that if you acknowledge his feelings then in return he will be respectful of yours? Or just straight out tell him how you feel when you aren’t in an annoyed or irritated state maybe he’ll be receptive? I know both of your emotions are out of wack right now and you both need to give each other and yourself some grace thru this time. It also just helps to come here and vent like you did! Good luck momma I wish you the best

No your not being an asshole but he’s acting incompetent. If he’s the stay at home parent and your the working one(which I can’t believe your back to work at 5 weeks pp. I wasn’t even driving my car at 5 weeks my mom or husband was driving me around) then he needs to do his job of taking care of the kids and meals. Ans the behavior of saying “k” and walking away is childish af.

Sounds like yall need to have a conversation. And I mean one where you each listen no matter how difficult it might be to have. Make sure you are using “I” statements and not “You” statements. You are a team and still have your own feelings and with out communication you are just assuming and reacting to something you don’t fully know. From experience with my husband if I didn’t ask him to do something he wouldn’t think to do it. So now we have a system where I ask and will even write it somewhere for him so he can see. This way he knows and he can do it before I get home.

Sounds like depression… I wish I had advice for you mama..

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