Feeling down

Feeling quite down today as I can’t shake the feeling that I’m letting my baby down. We don’t have that much money which makes me feel sad that I won’t be able to take her on many trips or activities as she gets older. I’m not bothered about her having lots of toys as you can get those things second hand anyway, but it’s more the idea that she could be missing out on experiences. I can’t drive either which limits where we can go, eg the aquarium would be a good day trip but we will need to make it an overnight due to the time it takes getting public transport which again adds cost. I find it hard not to compare myself to my sister as well who has lots of friends many of whom have kids which I also don’t have so again I feel like she’s missing out. I’m quite a disorganised person so if I get the dishes washed, a washing in and the baby out to the park I feel that’s all I can manage for a day. She’s only two months so I know it won’t affect her much just now, I just worry for when she gets older

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For days out I'd recommend asking family/friends to gift money for things like Christmas and birthdays rather than toys, do you have any local baby groups? So you could make new friends that have children around the same age? Xx

You're doing an amazing job if you can manage dishes, washing and a park trip all in the same day!! Are you going to local playgroups etc? Often really cheap and great for meeting mum friends xx

We are in the same boat, don’t have lots of money but I normally just take my 2 boys to the church groups that are free or the free groups at the library. We also go out to the park alot or round to see family members. My eldest doesn’t seem bothered tbh he’s 3.5. If we do go out for a day trip it makes it even more special because we don’t do it often 🥰

Please don’t worry, all your baby needs is your love & to be safe to grow. I have two older boys, 4 & 2years &!a 3month old girl. We’ve spent money on Peppa Pig world, visits to Father Christmas but you know they day the talk about the most, the days they loved with every inch of their body. First is The day we got a bus to the train station, had a pic nic on the platform counted trains for 4hrs and got the bus home. 2nd favourite the day we went to the park in the pouring rain, hid under the slide and got daddy to come and rescue us. I’ve spent money on baby massage, sensory etc and third time I’m doing a free course at my local community Center and use their baby sensory room for a smalldo donation. At Christmas we are gifted annual family passes to our local zoo/national trust. This year we’ve also used our local community bus that does day visits to the beach etc it was brilliant after my C section. We will save & go on a BIG day out but it will be few and far between v special.

Honestly money doesn't buy happiness, quality time is better for her. As of you want to do stuff with her try local church sometime do free playgroups that aren't religious, local children center do free groups and local libraries often do free groups. Don't feel guilty for not getting much done, if you keep baby and you healthy, clean and fed that more than enough

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