No mum friends

Anyone else just feel like the odd one out not having any other mum friends with toddlers? My husband commented on my daughter not having anyone to play with and now I feel so guilty about it (bless him, he didn't mean to make me feel bad). I struggled with PPD for a long time so while I was going to the baby groups, speaking to other mums, going to the soft play etc, I know I was going through the motions but was lost in myself. Then when I came through the other side of the depression, I found the groups quite clicky and some mums very stand-offish. I have made and effort to go and meet with other mums, but nothing like I see these other people have!! One of my friends had a baby the same time as me, unfortunately we live around 50 mins apart so don't see her too often. She made a group of friends at her first baby group and 'the girls' catch up all the time with the kids and I'm like HOW?! 🙈 I don't know, I just feel sad about it sometimes. I'm back at work now and she loves nursery and has little friends there, but I've no idea who they are haha

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I feel the exact same, I have tried to meet mums put myself out there and no one seems interested. Someone posted on Facebook about this and I reached out as they lived close by, sent a couple of messages then ghosted me and the same happened to a mum at nursery. I was so hurt by it. I get that everyone has a life but friendships are important too. I have gave up trying and now put my time into going to the gym . You might meet some mums at nursery over time? Can’t suggest anything but just let you know that you’re not the only one that feels this way xx

I also found it hard to connect at baby groups as everyone was already in their clique from NCT groups etc so was hard to connect with anyone but managed to connect with one other mum who also wasn't in a group and it's been lovely to keep in touch with her. I did meet few mums off Peanut and managed to stay in touch with 1 one them. It is hard to find time as working full time but because they are local it is much easier to pop out for walks and play dates. Have you tried meeting mums off Peanut that look to be local? Also, nurseries have stay and play days where you can meet other mums in your child's group. Could be good way to connect? And my friends with older kids say that once kids go to school there's lots of birthday parties and parent groups created so you inevitably get involved.

Same here! I was mostly housebound for a whole year with endometriosis and now i’ve had an operation to get me back on my feet and I feel like I’m completely new to my own town😭 So many people from my year in school are having babies turning 1 and I see every mum in town at the birthday parties on social media🥲 I try to make an effort with the mums I know from school on socials but the conversations don’t last and never get reciprocated. The groups seem to form from nursery but my LO doesn’t go to one 🙃

We were in a group of 6 mums and dads at nct class we don’t see each other all of the time but we make the effort to keep in touch and meet for dinner and for the kids etc when we can xx

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