Alone

I feel the exact same way. My family stopped visiting me shortly after my little was older then 6 months and it just seems like no one cares anymore. Not counting my husband and son of course. You’re not alone in this feeling

Yeah definitely.. my mum & brother literally live less than 5mins away in the next suburb and NEVER come visit me, mind you she is older, frail & rarely leaves the house now unless she's going to the shop but she pretty much bypasses my house when going to the shop & still doesn't call in. 😏

I could have written this too. I have always been really close to my mum, and thought we would see each other all the time. But we only see her every 6-8 weeks, maybe for an hour or two at her house, after I keep asking. It’s very sad. I’ve been so lonely with my husband working long hours, it’s just me and my daughter all the time. I love her, but it’s hard on your own. Sometimes you want a break, or just to have people around you so you don’t feel alone. So it’s definitely not just you, I feel it too. Sending love xx

Yes I feel like this abit. People offer help when you have a newborn but not when you have a toddler. I wish people would offer to give me a break sometimes because it's hard work dealing with a toddler 24/7. My mum doesn't drive so it would take her about 1hr to get to mine so I understand but it does feel lonely when you don't have anyone close by you can trust to leave your child with or anyone that even offers.

Mary, I feel exactly the same way. I live away from my family but my partner is gone all day and his family never comes around. I’m pretty sure it’s because they don’t like me. I’m so sorry you’re going through all of this alone but you’re not alone in your experience. Hang in there and try to focus on what you do have. And try to build your own community if you can ❤️

Yeah, I try not to think about it but sometimes it makes me angry that noone gives a shit, but then I think, do people not like me because I'm angry?! Haha. I try to be nice but obviously I'm just not that interesting! You can't force relationships so I think you just have to wait until they happen naturally. My family love me but we're not close. We see them maybe once or twice a year. I hope to get a little job soon so I can get out and have some adult conversation, maybe make some friends. I'm lucky that my two boys have started nursery but it's a small window to get stuff done. Having two little ones is very lonely at times. And truth be told having young kids, the sleepless nights etc, has taken a toll on my relationship with my husband. Some of his behaviour just isn't OK anymore so there's that too. I started seeing a counsellor actually as I realised I needed to talk to someone, even just to chat in general with another woman. That's helped so I just go every few weeks.

Thank you mamas, this was needed.. have I been that busy and on the go I have only just seen this now 9 days later after posting this. My god haha