Fight with husband over rest

I told my husband I wasn’t going to do the dishes tonight so I can just have some me time. He said he guessed he would do it. Then he comes back and says we had a deal that I would do the need to haves. And just started berating me and I’m like you’re making this worse. Its literally dishes and I had a full day of work and putting baby to sleep and he just says over and over that this is a logical conversation about doing what’s needed for the household. He showed no empathy, no kindness, no understanding. It really made me question how I married this man. Someone who can’t even understand or sympathize with his wife who needs a break and is crying as he talks to her. I feel so sad and alone. I don’t know who to talk to or go to.

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I am so sorry girl. Parenting is not easy and adjustment with baby is probably the hardest thing ever ! I am sure you both get frustrated at times. You both just have to think that it’s you both together vs the problem. It should never be you vs him. At times, we do feel lonely, but think about all the goodness you guys have together. Having a positive mindset changes the tone, way of thinking and the our reactions. If you need a friend holler at me girl 💕

I am so sorry. I had a lot of these moments and same thoughts too in my marriage! I do not understand it but u know what I know enough to know it is not just the woman’s job or “you knew how it was gonna be” or “just do it to avoid the problems” no!! There’s two adults in the house! It needs to get done one way or the other. I am so sorry he is wrong. and there’s nothing worse than dealing with these things and then feeling so alone. I am totally here if you need. But u need ur rest damn it! U need a break not someone complaining at you for wanting that! We need support and love! And a god damn break! I’m so glad u stood your ground. The problem is at what cost? But I am glad you did. Idk what’s going on with men lately sorry boys… but they are really really getting useless these days! Idk what’s going on but I can’t handle it. They need to pick up the pace we’re Mom’s now so they need to catch up or else

I dont know your whole issue and how your relationship is but have you ever though instead of choosing fighting words to choose nice ones? Like you stated you told him you were going to do the dishes. Why not instead choose, hey honey Iv had a very long day I don't think I'm going to get to the dishes, I would really appreciate some help. Or hey honey I don't feel like doing the dishes tonight, but they will get done when I'm rested?

Wow that’s horrible. You deserve to have someone who respects you and lets you get the rest you need. I’m sorry you had to deal with that, don’t let anyone tell you you should have said it differently or that you could do it another time. Parenting and marriage should be a partnership, hopefully he steps up.

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 @Marcela period! Yessss I agree

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