Mom guilt
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@Maggi I’m trying not to coddle him. When I say he was sick I mean like multiple hospital visits sick. And physically unable to take care of little man. And I’m trying to see it that way. It’s just hard because like my mother gave me up and then my adoptive mother had favorites and I was not one. I just want something so different for my son and it’s killing me to not be around
Ah ok, then my apologies for my sass. I'll calm my tits. You are NOT your birth mother and you are NOT your adoptive mother. The evidence of that is this very post, the fact that you are feeling this guilt. Try to look at the facts as they are in the present and not at what you fear might be happening. I say this from experience and as someone who has had to work very very hard to do this. And I'm still working on it because of my own past. So I promise I get it. I'm there with you. And the thing that has helped me the most is to look at the evidence and the facts as they are right now.
@Maggi oh don’t worry about your “sass” 😂 I think most women see that a man is sick and assume “man cold”. I’m really trying I know I’ll get there but it’s rough right now
Well I got you. Feel free to message me directly any time. I'm no stranger to these feelings. I'm happy to just listen anytime. Sometimes people's advice doesn't really help and you just need someone to hear you.
Oh honey, you're FINE. Little man is FINE. He has a village and nothing could be better. What a wonderful way to grow with people caring for you who love you while your mama works hard to give you a good life. Becoming a mom doesn't mean that Little Man has to be your WHOLE WORLD and you don't need to be his whole world either. I was a single mom for a while and my parents had to take my little one overnight once a week to make childcare work so that I could support us. Guess what? She's 15 now and an INCREDIBLE young lady who I have the best relationship with. All she remembers is that she got to spend a lot of time with her grandparents and loved her daycare. It's all gonna be ok. But also, don't coddle your fiance. He a big boy. If you were in his position, you'd be rallying, I promise you. I think we women tend to really coddle the grown men in our lives. This isn't to say he's not a great guy.