Entitled SIL- Am I Overeacting?
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@Katy, we have a nanny 40hr x week. However, his sister needs money but doesn't really want to get a job. if she didn't watch her consistently, I feel like she is still going to make suggestions when she does see her. I don't think there is any way to get out of this..
What does your husband think? Has he stood up for you in the past?
@Melissa he has, but it seems as though he is oblivious. He tunes her out many times and isn't hearing her ,so I have to repeat it. It seems as though I'm being dramatic, but we as women speak a different language and also a side note. I am 8mo pregnant, so I may be overreacting. I come from a very toxic family, and the women in my family are sneaky and try to find ways to cause problems. It's difficult because I don't know if I'm being overprotective, oversensitive, or I am right. My instincts usually aren't off, but dealing with this with my husband is very difficult because he is the youngest and is sensitive to his sister.
She can make suggestions. But coming as an aunt who sees her here and there with parents around to still be in control of their own child’s diet is different than 12 private hours a week where she has total control over child’s diet. Her not having money or wanting a job frr isn’t y’all’s problem. Y’all already have a nanny. Why are y’all paying her $25/hr to spend time with her niece, annoy tf outta you, and butt into y’all’s parenting choices causing a riff in y’all’s relationship? If there’s no good answer to that question, then there’s no need to continue. Point blank period.
AND you’re pregnant again? So ask yourself, you want this stress with both of your kids or not at all? Cause if y’all not paying her to be with her niece and she has to get an actual job to pay for her own place and whatever else, the amount of time she’ll be with your kids and y’all stressing you out is gonna lessen by at least 12 hours if not more.
You don’t seem to be over the top with this, but even if you were, it’s your baby and you feed her what you want. Idc what someone else says. Idc what blogs and articles say. At the end of the day, are y’all concerned or is the doctor? If not, she can hush and pop out her own kid. Thanks for the suggestion but I told you to stfu the first time. It’s our kid - not yours. Why are you still going? That’s it.
@Macdalia i agree with you. This is exactly how I feel Im trying to pipe down ,but I know I'm going to explode any day now.
Honestly, reading this, whether you are overreacting or not, you should find different childcare. This is ruining your relationship with both your partner and your sister.