Going out and feeding

Aww, I completely get how you feel and have also fed my daughter in my car many times! It certainly gets easy the more you need to feed them while out. I have a breastfeeding privacy muslin cover that I use when I’m out to feed my daughter in coffee shops etc. could something like that help how you’re feeling? I’ve also fed her in a changing room cubicle before too!

Yup!! I take my baby out every day but it’s always to a relatives I feel comfortable feeding around or I take him to the park and back which is max 45 minutes. The thought of having to feed him somewhere makes me so scared but in the other hand I want to do it so I’m comfortable with it. I’m breastfeeding and I just don’t feel like you see many people doing it in public? Or maybe I’ve just not paid attention before. Definitely experiencing this too x

This has happened to me twice now! We went out shopping last week and also yesterday, she was asleep before we went, on the way and whilst we put her in the pram then 5 mins into being in b&m she started crying and just wouldn’t stop. So I had to walk out halfway through shopping and feed her in the car, luckily I had my partner with me so he could finish shopping. I find if we ever need to be somewhere, it’s guaranteed she’ll start crying and wants feeding when we get there or are out doing something 🫠🫣 just here to say you’re not alone, I don’t feel comfortable just whipping my boobs out in public and feeding her so I’m not too sure how to go about this when it happens again 😩

bless you. its definitely very daunting at first, but it gets easier. The majority of people will either not notice, look and not be bothered or will smile. The occasional oldie will comment on how lovely it is to see. For all the moaners, you're not inviting them to watch...its their choice to watch or not. At the end of the day you're feeding your baby. I started by using my cardi or a muslin to give some privacy..now I don't massively care. Babies will hide most of the boob anyway.

Did you check if the baby changing room has a breastfeeding chair? that's were I would go. Also honestly I would just go to the cafe, most people don't even notice and I doubt staff would ask you to leave or buy anything before sitting. never happened to me anyway. I use a cover and go to the furthest corner. You will get used to it and not feel awkward. The crying baby is preparation for the tantrum toddler lol. You will stop caring about what people might think tbh

People who say something are some kind of special. Breastfeeding is a natural thing. After my 1st I gained confidence and told someone if they don’t like it they can leave because I’m not starving my baby just to please a stranger or anyone for that matter and i also said I don’t like the way you chew your food so why don’t you take your food and eat somewhere else. If you feel uncomfortable try pumping and introducing a bottle. There’s no need to feel uncomfortable feeding your child and If people have a problem with it they can shove it up their a** Also it’s rare now for people to even say something especially how social media is putting a big impact on breastfeeding and rooting for moms who actually do it with no care of what people think. Wishing you all the best and congratulations on your little one !

I definitely found this overwhelming at first with my first baby. Over time I came to realise that most people don't care, and if they do - that's their problem!! I expect most of the time people would have no issues of you sitting in a cafe ☺️ I once ended up feeding in the changing rooms of M&S because it was the only place there was somewhere to sit down - but the staff were more than accepting of me doing that! With places you go to regularly - you'll start to get an idea of where is good to go. Some shopping centres now have feeding rooms so worth looking for those! It's harder when you're in unfamiliar places x

I was in the registry office yesterday with my boy. I’m usually very happy to get my boobs out and feed (I’m discreet but I have massive boobs so there’s only so delicate i can be about it). But there was this old chap sat in the waiting room also registering the death of his wife. And I just felt so inappropriate for some reason. I couldn’t bring myself to start feeding until he is gone. Not sure why. I would suggest maybe asking a member of staff “I urgently need to feed my baby, do you have any facilities etc, do you need me to purchase anything” most people are naturally understanding but also, as part of the equality act it’s stated that as breastfeeding is a protected characteristic, public establishments have to support and actively deter discrimination against breastfeeding mothers. Perhaps do some reading about ur rights to feed in public as I found this boosted my confidence (and gives me something to argue with if anyone says anything)

What worked for me with my first little one was just powering through the first few weeks. I found it so embarrassing and uncomfortable to start with, especially as he had such trouble latching and would constantly fling his head back to show my boobs off to everyone. I used one of these at the beginning and still keep it in the changing bag for just in case but with number 2 I’ve not actually used it https://www.johnlewis.com/cheeky-chompers-6-in-1-multi-muslin-breastfeeding-cover-silver-stars/p110133991 It does get better once you get used to it and the baby gets quicker at latching, etc. I’m now comfortable breastfeeding in most places if my baby needs it but I really wasn’t to start with.

I understand the anxiety, we came back from vacation yesterday and was waiting for a bus, ended up waiting 3hrs because every damn bus was full or cancelled. The little one ended up having a blowout at the bus stop so we had to go to a hotel and ask to use their restroom