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He should help you as much as he can because he clocks out & we mothers never clock out. It is our job to be the primary parent and care for the home & children but if dad is around and has time, should definitely pitch in without being told.
My husband works 13+ hours 3 days a week, and when he gets home I make sure he has time to shower but other than that he jumps right in taking care of our son. I do most of the housework but if I ask he’ll gladly help. Just because you’re a SAHM doesn’t mean you shouldn’t get help
It’s called being a parent. You didn’t create a baby by yourself, you shouldn’t have to shoulder the entire responsibility of raising a baby by yourself. And if you see your partner struggling, you help them, full stop. Your father sounds like a great example of what a family man is supposed to be. I hate the narrative that SAHM are supposed to do all of the childcare and housework 24/7, while the dads work 5 days a week, clocks in and clocks out, with lunch and bathroom breaks and weekends off. I’m a SAHM and my husband takes care of our son and pitches in when he’s off work, and we both share parenting and household duties on weekends.
My partner works full time, after work he is either looking after baby or he’s cooking/cleaning and getting baby ready for bed - we are a team and he is a parent and lives in the house so he cannot just pick and choose when he wants to be one. Also you should never have to ‘ask’ for help, it should be a given because it’s HIS child and HIS house too?! My partner took our baby out for the day so I could have a day to myself, I don’t have to ask he just gets on with it. I also reciprocate because of how much he does and of course he deserves a break too! Also, if you were walking full time too (which a lot of mums do) who would be expected to clean and look after baby after work hours then?
This was discussed at length before we had our children. In MY household me doing everything is expected and understood. Not saying that when something needs to be done, I can't rely on my husband. He is very much aware of what's happening but definitely expects me to handle it. With that being said, because I'm a nursing mom ( EBF no bottles), my husband has always helped with the nighttime routine. He loves the time with the kids as well as giving me "free time."" He respects what I do 24/7 and doesn't mind flexing his dad duties. He's a great partner and this works well for our household.
my husband does everything i do, in addition to working his job. he wants to be as involved and connected with our child as he can be. he’s constantly building a relationship with her. he’s happy to take her and let me sleep in. we alternate nights for soothing her back to sleep. they go to the grocery store together, cook dinner together, he trims her nails, gives her a bath every night (this is the one thing we don’t share because it’s their special time together ☺️), does her laundry and anything else required of a parent. to him, having a job doesn’t negate him from being an involved parent. he wants nothing more in life than for her to know she’s loved 🥰
Mine doesn’t do anything except play video games :(
My man doesn’t help at all. We have 3 kids . I just gave birth to my 3rd 4 weeks ago . Ever since he has been born he doesn’t help with anything . Only thing he will do is hold him. It’s hard .
@Cassie same .
@River. (Riv) I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this. I only have one and even that’s hard enough, but having THREE, I can’t even imagine. He thinks that because he works he shouldn’t have to do anything else. You’d think they would WANT to help because that’s what we’d do if the situations were reversed. They just don’t get it.
I have chronic fatigue syndrome & fibromyalgia so my husband supports me by doing most of the chores on top of working 9-5 & spending every free moment playing with our daughter to give me a break.
My man helps yeah. He misses the baby when he gets home so he’s all up in the baby’s business enough that it allows me to cook undisturbed or do whatever undisturbed. He doesn’t see it as “help” he just misses the baby and wants to spend time w the baby knowing they grow up so quick. He has no probs looking after baby for half a day so I can see family/friends. Cleaning- yeah he helps as well. He does dishes most nights coz I’ve already spent an hr cooking
My husband works a very physically and mentally demanding job, but if he comes home and sees that I'm overwhelmed, he doesn't even ask me, he hops right on what I need help with. Whether that's the children or some dishes left in the sink, or even ordering takeaway if I'm really not doing good that night.