First you're a superhero mom, I was in a similar situation when I first had my baby and one day I was so frustrated to the extent of nearly hitting him a spatula on his head while sleeping so one day I came up with an idea I gave him the baby and he was like oh I've got something to and I told him this is our child I'm gonna go watch a movie in the siting room if you like don't take care of her Another day I just dropped the baby for him told him I'm going for a walk, truth be told it started like that till he mastered taking care of the baby while I don other things or have lone time not to sugar coat he takes care of her without asking him now even during night his sleep parten has changed tbh it's not a one man thing You're amazing mum
I'm in a similar scenario. It is always the mother's obligation to keep the household clean, cook, and care for the children, which is really difficult to do it all!! Taking a quick breaks will help! Or listening to music while getting it done so you don’t lose it. It helps me get things done… My hubby does the same thing it drives me crazy!!! Maybe chat to him more about helping while holding the baby
My husband used to do this... Mostly because I normally did everything and because he was worried about hurting her. I started using a baby wrap to get things done easier with two hands. Then I made him use it so he could help out. I still mostly did everything but this allowed him to wash some bottles/dishes or fold a load of laundry while I took a nap.
Because men are ignorant and think as long as they have a full time job they don’t have to do a damn thing
Bless you :( no disrespect but men tend to get away with what you let them (not that it’s your fault) but don’t do his washing, don’t make him dinner, if he says ‘but I have the baby’ be firm and say ‘I don’t care, I do it all day with the baby, get up’ let them know you’re not taking their shit!🤣
Get a hip seat. Game changer. Sorry your husband is baby-lame. I hope he has other good qualities...
Explain it with perspective. My husband and I were arguing and he thought I was being ungrateful about being a stay at home mom and I said let’s switch the roles I’ll go to work you quit your job. You have to do this this this this and this and by the way you also have to put up with your grand parents. We are helping them out rn cause his grandpa just had knee surgery so we’ve been taking care of them and his grandpa can be very uhm hard headed. And he goes oh that sound miserable. So things finally changed but sometimes you may have to show them through perspective.
Ohhh I feel this SO deep in my bones. It's like I wrote this myself. Sending you so much love. This is really fucking hard.
I think it might be an idea to work out a routine as I was in a similar situation and speaking about it and putting in a system really helps. Your doing great mama ❤️