Just to add to my pressure, I’ve got everyone commenting on our engagement saying how they expected it to happen and waited for it to happen for so long etc and it’s making me think well everyone thinks I’m in this amazing relationship now what will they think if we break up. 😩 I know I shouldn’t care what others think but it makes it so much harder hearing others commenting on what they think is a perfect relationship
Fuck what anyone else thinks. Narcissists have a way of making sure their outwardly appearances are impeccable and nobody would ever think they are a monster behind closed doors. Also stop jumping the gun and worrying about future relationships. Focus on this one now and how to get out of it safely because honestly, he sounds psychotic and unhinged. It’s no joke that a woman’s life is most at risk when leaving an abusive relationship. Don’t stay, he will not change and things will only ever get worse. Please speak to Women’s Aid and ask for help. They can assist with legal stuff, benefits, moving etc. You’ve been a single mum before, you can do it again. Don’t let him leave your children as orphans because that’s the path you are headed down. Sending you strength and a hug, you will get through this 🫶🏽 https://www.womensaid.org.uk
Sounds to me you’re already doing everything on your own, don’t force yourself to stay in a relationship that’s not healthy for the sake of your kids, they’re better off with a mom that’s not having to watch over her shoulder and like someone else said fuck what other ppl think, they don’t pay your bills they don’t help with your kids all they do is talk, let em and boss up for you and your babies it’s gonna feel like hell in the beginning but you’ll get a hang of things and see how better off you are without his negativity around
I second what Neena said. Leave now!
Girl please LEAVE! It will only get worse
I would always ask you, if this were your friend, what would you advise them to do? I also think you should leave. You are a strong person and will manage just fine on your own. Your older child will get past the break up and see you are much happier. You can find someone more deserving and who treats you better. Your family love you and want you to be happy. I left my partner who I was with for 15 years because it just wasn't right and my family can see that now because they see how I have changed. Good luck xx
Leave immediately it’s only gone start getting physical, why would you stay around to see if he’ll change if he’s showing you who he is right now?