Need ideas and tips for our situation

You need to eat and take postnatal vitamins in order to produce. You also need to pump every 2-3 hours. If this isn’t feasible due to baby not gaining weight or you not wanting it or whatever reason, I suggest switching to formula or topping off with formula. Prioritize chores, is this laundry more important than food or sleep at this second? We prioritize baby laundry, dishwasher and cooking. The rest can be done later on, sure it sucks when the house is dirty but it’s not that important right this second you know. Maybe write out a list of all the things you and he need to do and see what the priority level is for that chore together? You’ve got this.

You need to recover to be able to do more, so I’d emphasize that to him.

Firstly I hope you’re okay and recovering as well as you can. I don’t know your full situation so it may not be possible but I think if this was me- you absolutely need to rest and recover as much as possible and equally appreciate your partner is trying his best to do what he can. I personally would say you need to both sit down and communicate your feelings and hopefully both understand each others point and potentially decide what things can be left and what things can be prioritised. Is there anything you can do to streamline things? Eg get food delivered rather than going to the supermarket? Can you cook extra meals and freeze them so you don’t need to prepare food 2/3 times a day? Also I would be potentially considering even getting a cleaner on a temporary basis to give you both an extra hand in the meantime. Even just a couple of hours a week for the next couple months to get you by doing bigger jobs, or helping with laundry etc or the bits you can’t do x

I work full time at home plus do all the household chores and I’m pregnant. I know I don’t have a newborn in the mix but it is achievable. Can your husband not suck it up for a bit? I know it’s exhausting but it’s not going to be like that forever. You literally can’t bend over right now you need to rest and heal. I think you should remind him it’s only temporary, it’s always going to be hard at this stage. Can you order in food a couple nights a week or batch cook to ease up some of the work? Or even buy some of those lasagnas you bake in the oven and ready made stuff like that? And as Polina suggested let some things pile up for later if you can. Maybe give your hubby some tips if he’s not used to doing the laundry and stuff. Like wake up and shove a wash on each morning, at lunch time swap it to the tumble dryer (if you don’t have one I recommend if you can get one). Put the dishwasher on each night before you go to bed. This little kind of adjustment makes it easier to manage

When one of you cooks, try to batch cook as much as you can. Try get a station together with everything you will need for the day / night. If pumping becomes too much, use formula. Don’t have guests if that adds to the stress. Both of you take it easy on yourselves! It is such a hard time as you are looking after you and baby. I would say dad’s priority needs to be you and your priority needs to be baby!

A schedule for each day of the week is helpful too. Like m Monday is sweep floors, Tuesday is clean bathroom, Wednesday is laundry, etc. after my. C sections I kept a swing in the kitchen or depending on counter space you could do a seat on the island next to you that way I could cook and do dishes. After my second I did a lot of baby wearing too. I didn't do any sweeping or vacuuming for a month or two that was my husband's job and if he would carry laundry baskets for me I would swap laundry and then fold and put away. Like others said, we meal prep so we typically cook enough for 5 days. My meals are usually different than my husbands but if they are the same a week then we make enough for 10 meals and our lunches are the same every day. Makes it so much easier during the week!

First, I would make sure the c-section scar is well covered so it doesn’t get infected. I also struggled with all these- had my baby through CS on the 10th of Sept. I would clean the incision spot with cotton wool and alcohol, cover with a fleece cloth and wear the hospital binder over it. I found this really helpful in moving around holding my baby while he fed. Communication with your partner is key. Let him know how you feel. Also stocking up the freezer with enough protein and food helped us both. We had to get a deep freezer. It gets better mama.

I was told that there are postpartum doulas that come to your house and help with baby and chores. Maybe that can be an option for you

If you can spring for it financially, have someone come to help with household chores. Otherwise forget about some of them. Like vacuum or mopping can wait. So can bathrooms and the like. Just do the bare minimum for dishes & laundry. Have your husband carry the baskets to the machines and you can try to do the switching over (if it doesn’t hurt your incision). And maybe think about ordering one of those meal delivery where you just have to pop in oven or microwave. Way less dishes and no huge grocery shopping necessary. Even though your husband might be feeling burnt out , he needs to keep it up until you’re more recovered. Doing too much too soon will set you back further. You’ll be feeling better soon enough and can start picking up more as you feel physically able to. Best wishes! My first was a C-section and thankfully I was living at my MIL so she did so much for us.