Have you been noticing your child demonstrating these behaviors at home? The school just wants to make sure you guys collectively are addressing the behavior. These are normal behaviors, but acceptable no.
I actually had a similar message from my daughters school and immediately asked for a conference to talk understand and come up with a team plan. It was awkward at first and I was embarrassed but at the end of the day it was extremely helpful for everyone
It sounds like the next step in addressing these issues together. It's normal for kids not to know these things until we teach them. It makes sense to talk to them about coming up with a plan together. It might include reenforcing these messages at home, working on more acceptable reactions, cutting down on tv time if he's getting that, etc. You're not a failure - this is an opportunity to work through the challenges together!
I literally just got a phone call from my son's prek teacher saying the same thing. I felt embarrassed over the phone.
@Maglyn whatâs your plan moving forward?
@Xena I mean he has the occasional tantrum and I do find when itâs time to change activities he gets upset but it never lasts very long
@Mya I asked to meet with the coordinator but they havenât responded yet
I just want to make sure you know this is very normal and you are not a failure as a mama. They have a lot of feelings at this age and sometimes donât know how to regulate.
your child is not a huge issue, and you are not a failure, you are wonderful, and your little one is lucky to have you. the things listed in this email are normal behaviours that toddlers can display, nursery can be really overwhelming for little ones and theyâre often set unrealistic expectations (like constant good behaviour, amazing listening skills etc) because thatâs what helps the NURSERY run smoothly, not the child. iâve worked with various age groups and noticed how much staff expected this little kids to act like adults! it was ridiculous. i notice they say it happens a lot during transition times, no shock there, it can be hard for a young child to give up something theyâve gotten comfortable/happy doing just because someone else has said so! i would ask the establishment for a meeting so you can come up with a joint plan going forward, because if youâre doing things one way at home, for example if you were to practice transitioning from one thing to another at home/
@Madison Definitely taking away the tv. No screen time. I like what JL wrote, going over with him what are acceptable reactions vs not for starters. What about you? Any ideas?
a certain way, but the nursery does it differently, it can be really confusing, frustrating and overwhelming for your little one. sending love mama, every behaviour is communication, theyâre going through soooo much at their little ageâ€ïž
@Madison They will respond. This happened last month for me and they shared in detail the behavior when it started what they do to redirect etc. And I shared with them what I experience at home, how I handle it, any recent changes that may have occurred. And they gave me some suggestions. It was awesome and I felt a better connection with the school and know that they really care. And the suggestions are actually working! Lol
This is so normal, Iâve had it with my little boy. Although heâs 2 and a half now and happening a lot less frequent. How old is Mylo? Xxxx
i also note that your child has just turned 2 years old? so trying to âgo overâ what is acceptable and what isnât, is far too complicated and useless for him at this point, his brain canât process this information or understand what youâre trying to get across. itâs really important we have APPROPRIATE expectations according to age, not what we want. when he has moments of big emotions (what people like to call âtantrumsâ, however i donât like this term) be his calm, and donât give attention to things like hitting, throwing himself on the floor etc, if he does these things, let him know that youâre there for him, snd try to redirect to things like blowing fake candles, cuddles etc. instagram is a great resource to dealing with big emotions x
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@Emily I forgot to say heâs only 2! As of a week ago!
Normal, but needs to be addressed. I find it odd this has been ongoing and they're just telling you now. My kids teachers would have told me the first day it happened.
Sounds like a normal child to me. Itâs not a huge issue, itâs just something that little kids need to learn re whatâs acceptable and whatâs not. Show me a child that doesnât go through this phase đ donât worry, just something to work on and help him understand
Heâs only 2 and seems like heâs an only child. Itâs pretty normal at that age to have a hard time transitioning to the next part of the day. Hitting at that age is pretty common but a big no no in my house hold.
I really didnât think youâd be contacted like that? Have they raised this issue before ? The way they have worded it just makes it sound like they donât want to handle him âčïž poor lo, trust me I work at a nursery and children do not like to share their toys, have tantrums theyâre learning and itâs normal, they donât understand their emotions yet and how to handle them. I would have a word with them as they should have at least called you in for a meeting and you could have gone forward. Theyâre meant to help your child not single them out like this x
Normal. Iâd schedule a meeting with the teacher to ensure youâre on the same page and using the same verbiage/strategies. Also make sure theyâre giving him plenty of warning for transitions
Sounds exactly like my son and I am trying so hard everyday to help him overcome this. You're not a failure
To be honest, I think they are slightly overreacting because it's normal; kids are just like that. That's how kids learn and behave. However, the question whether there are enough â Adult â for the number of kids and what techniques they are planning to use to work with your child. These are questions I would ask because, with the price we pay for daycare, they should have methods and strategies to work with him. It's extremely normal, and I wouldn't be worried about it. đ€đ«¶đŸ
Should start occupational therapy to work on behavioral and emotional regulation
omg this sounds like my daughter. Its normal as much as people want and could lable this rather than riding it out its normal! Try not to react too much, make sure he is as safe as can be ect and create a colour monster system for him to try to understand his emotions and talk about them. Really they should give you the materials to try to help yoi ! We noticed she would do it at nursery and not at home but then it did creep in at home, terrible twos are basically learning emotions, talking about them and having more understandings. wait till you get to threes⊠its teenager style đ€Ł
@Djenie it's not normal multiple times a day every day
What I donât like about this is the way theyâre raising the issue. This really should be addressed by a phone call to discuss the issues and then the offer of a meeting. To raise an issue like this in a message, and to not even put a personal greeting on it, comes across very poorly to me.
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Your child is definitely NOT a huge issue and this is normal for lots of children! They are only telling you so you are informed :) you are doing an incredible job mama. This parenting gig is HARD!! Plus, he is a kid! They always grow out of it đ«¶đœđ€ (mum to an 11 year old & 3 week old)