Thoughts on this email from daycare?

Your child is definitely NOT a huge issue and this is normal for lots of children! They are only telling you so you are informed :) you are doing an incredible job mama. This parenting gig is HARD!! Plus, he is a kid! They always grow out of it 🫶🏽🤍 (mum to an 11 year old & 3 week old)

Have you been noticing your child demonstrating these behaviors at home? The school just wants to make sure you guys collectively are addressing the behavior. These are normal behaviors, but acceptable no.

I actually had a similar message from my daughters school and immediately asked for a conference to talk understand and come up with a team plan. It was awkward at first and I was embarrassed but at the end of the day it was extremely helpful for everyone

It sounds like the next step in addressing these issues together. It's normal for kids not to know these things until we teach them. It makes sense to talk to them about coming up with a plan together. It might include reenforcing these messages at home, working on more acceptable reactions, cutting down on tv time if he's getting that, etc. You're not a failure - this is an opportunity to work through the challenges together!

I literally just got a phone call from my son's prek teacher saying the same thing. I felt embarrassed over the phone.

@Maglyn what’s your plan moving forward?

@Xena I mean he has the occasional tantrum and I do find when it’s time to change activities he gets upset but it never lasts very long

@Mya I asked to meet with the coordinator but they haven’t responded yet

I just want to make sure you know this is very normal and you are not a failure as a mama. They have a lot of feelings at this age and sometimes don’t know how to regulate.

your child is not a huge issue, and you are not a failure, you are wonderful, and your little one is lucky to have you. the things listed in this email are normal behaviours that toddlers can display, nursery can be really overwhelming for little ones and they’re often set unrealistic expectations (like constant good behaviour, amazing listening skills etc) because that’s what helps the NURSERY run smoothly, not the child. i’ve worked with various age groups and noticed how much staff expected this little kids to act like adults! it was ridiculous. i notice they say it happens a lot during transition times, no shock there, it can be hard for a young child to give up something they’ve gotten comfortable/happy doing just because someone else has said so! i would ask the establishment for a meeting so you can come up with a joint plan going forward, because if you’re doing things one way at home, for example if you were to practice transitioning from one thing to another at home/

@Madison Definitely taking away the tv. No screen time. I like what JL wrote, going over with him what are acceptable reactions vs not for starters. What about you? Any ideas?

a certain way, but the nursery does it differently, it can be really confusing, frustrating and overwhelming for your little one. sending love mama, every behaviour is communication, they’re going through soooo much at their little age❤️

@Madison They will respond. This happened last month for me and they shared in detail the behavior when it started what they do to redirect etc. And I shared with them what I experience at home, how I handle it, any recent changes that may have occurred. And they gave me some suggestions. It was awesome and I felt a better connection with the school and know that they really care. And the suggestions are actually working! Lol

This is so normal, I’ve had it with my little boy. Although he’s 2 and a half now and happening a lot less frequent. How old is Mylo? Xxxx

i also note that your child has just turned 2 years old? so trying to “go over” what is acceptable and what isn’t, is far too complicated and useless for him at this point, his brain can’t process this information or understand what you’re trying to get across. it’s really important we have APPROPRIATE expectations according to age, not what we want. when he has moments of big emotions (what people like to call “tantrums”, however i don’t like this term) be his calm, and don’t give attention to things like hitting, throwing himself on the floor etc, if he does these things, let him know that you’re there for him, snd try to redirect to things like blowing fake candles, cuddles etc. instagram is a great resource to dealing with big emotions x

@Emily I forgot to say he’s only 2! As of a week ago!

Normal, but needs to be addressed. I find it odd this has been ongoing and they're just telling you now. My kids teachers would have told me the first day it happened.

Sounds like a normal child to me. It’s not a huge issue, it’s just something that little kids need to learn re what’s acceptable and what’s not. Show me a child that doesn’t go through this phase 😅 don’t worry, just something to work on and help him understand

He’s only 2 and seems like he’s an only child. It’s pretty normal at that age to have a hard time transitioning to the next part of the day. Hitting at that age is pretty common but a big no no in my house hold.

I really didn’t think you’d be contacted like that? Have they raised this issue before ? The way they have worded it just makes it sound like they don’t want to handle him ☹️ poor lo, trust me I work at a nursery and children do not like to share their toys, have tantrums they’re learning and it’s normal, they don’t understand their emotions yet and how to handle them. I would have a word with them as they should have at least called you in for a meeting and you could have gone forward. They’re meant to help your child not single them out like this x

Normal. I’d schedule a meeting with the teacher to ensure you’re on the same page and using the same verbiage/strategies. Also make sure they’re giving him plenty of warning for transitions

Sounds exactly like my son and I am trying so hard everyday to help him overcome this. You're not a failure

To be honest, I think they are slightly overreacting because it's normal; kids are just like that. That's how kids learn and behave. However, the question whether there are enough “ Adult ” for the number of kids and what techniques they are planning to use to work with your child. These are questions I would ask because, with the price we pay for daycare, they should have methods and strategies to work with him. It's extremely normal, and I wouldn't be worried about it. 🤎🫶🏾

Should start occupational therapy to work on behavioral and emotional regulation

omg this sounds like my daughter. Its normal as much as people want and could lable this rather than riding it out its normal! Try not to react too much, make sure he is as safe as can be ect and create a colour monster system for him to try to understand his emotions and talk about them. Really they should give you the materials to try to help yoi ! We noticed she would do it at nursery and not at home but then it did creep in at home, terrible twos are basically learning emotions, talking about them and having more understandings. wait till you get to threes… its teenager style 🤣

@Djenie it's not normal multiple times a day every day

What I don’t like about this is the way they’re raising the issue. This really should be addressed by a phone call to discuss the issues and then the offer of a meeting. To raise an issue like this in a message, and to not even put a personal greeting on it, comes across very poorly to me.